I’ve found ‘telling’ to be invaluable in most intimate relationships, particularly because of whatever it is that results in ‘many minds’, e.g. expressing all of the conflicting feelings one has to better explain why one can’t ask some particular thing.
The big problem with habitually “telling” is that you just about need to already be in an intimate relationship with the person you Tell before you do it more than once or twice. Otherwise you will be dismissed as either a bore or a wimp.
It varies. I do a lot of it within a community that appreciates me as a kind of quirky guy who talks a lot about his own internal mental state, for example.
I’ve found ‘telling’ to be invaluable in most intimate relationships, particularly because of whatever it is that results in ‘many minds’, e.g. expressing all of the conflicting feelings one has to better explain why one can’t ask some particular thing.
The big problem with habitually “telling” is that you just about need to already be in an intimate relationship with the person you Tell before you do it more than once or twice. Otherwise you will be dismissed as either a bore or a wimp.
It varies. I do a lot of it within a community that appreciates me as a kind of quirky guy who talks a lot about his own internal mental state, for example.