Yes well I wasn’t a rationalist at the time, nor did I know enough about psychology to say what the right thing to do to help a person whose father… Well I cannot say the exact thing but suffice to say that If I ever meet the man at least one of us is going to the hospital. I’m rather non-violent at all other times. There wasn’t exactly a how-to guide I could read on the subject.
I am also the kind of person that would be drawn out and try to help a person who breaks down crying. You use your energy to help their problems, and have less left for yourself. It starts to wear on you when you get into the third year of it happening every second week like clockwork over such charming subjects as a thoughtless word by a professional acquaintance or having taken the wrong bins out. Bonus points for taking the wrong bins out being a personal insult that means I hate her.
Anyway, that really isn’t the point.Telling me how to solve my rubics cube which I am no longer in contact with is not very helpful. The point is, I’ve been there and I want to help you make the right decision, whatever that may be for you.
The point is, I’ve been there and I want to help you make the right decision
As far as I see it, you basically were faced with a situation without having any tools to deal with it. That makes your situation quite different.
When sitting in front of the hospital bed of my father speaking confused stuff because of morphium, my instinctual response was to do a nonverbal trance induction to have him in a silent state in half a minute.
Not because I read some how-to guide of how to deal with the situation but because NLP tools like that are instinctual behavior for me.
I’m very far from normal and so a lot of lessons that might be drawn from your experience for people that might be similar as you are, aren’t applicable to me.
There wasn’t exactly a how-to guide I could read on the subject.
While reading a how-to guide doesn’t give you any skills, there’s is psychological literature on how to help people with most problems.
You may be right about my lack of tools, and I can’t honestly say I used the try harder in the proper manner seeing as I hadn’t been introduced to it at the time. I played the role of the supportive boyfriend and tried (unsuccessfully) to convince her to go to a therapist who was actually qualified at that sort of thing. I am suspicious, however that you took pains to separate yourself into a new reference class before actually knowing that one way or the other. Unless of course you have a track record of taking massive psychological issues and successfully fixing them in other people and are we really doing this? I mean come on. A person offers to help and you immediately go for the throat, picking apart mistakes made in an attempt to help a person, then using rather personal things in a subtly judgemental manner. Do you foresee that kind of approach ending well? Is that really the way you want this sort of conversation to play out? I like to think we can do better.
Yes well I wasn’t a rationalist at the time, nor did I know enough about psychology to say what the right thing to do to help a person whose father… Well I cannot say the exact thing but suffice to say that If I ever meet the man at least one of us is going to the hospital. I’m rather non-violent at all other times. There wasn’t exactly a how-to guide I could read on the subject.
I am also the kind of person that would be drawn out and try to help a person who breaks down crying. You use your energy to help their problems, and have less left for yourself. It starts to wear on you when you get into the third year of it happening every second week like clockwork over such charming subjects as a thoughtless word by a professional acquaintance or having taken the wrong bins out. Bonus points for taking the wrong bins out being a personal insult that means I hate her.
Anyway, that really isn’t the point.Telling me how to solve my rubics cube which I am no longer in contact with is not very helpful. The point is, I’ve been there and I want to help you make the right decision, whatever that may be for you.
As far as I see it, you basically were faced with a situation without having any tools to deal with it. That makes your situation quite different.
When sitting in front of the hospital bed of my father speaking confused stuff because of morphium, my instinctual response was to do a nonverbal trance induction to have him in a silent state in half a minute.
Not because I read some how-to guide of how to deal with the situation but because NLP tools like that are instinctual behavior for me.
I’m very far from normal and so a lot of lessons that might be drawn from your experience for people that might be similar as you are, aren’t applicable to me.
While reading a how-to guide doesn’t give you any skills, there’s is psychological literature on how to help people with most problems.
You may be right about my lack of tools, and I can’t honestly say I used the try harder in the proper manner seeing as I hadn’t been introduced to it at the time. I played the role of the supportive boyfriend and tried (unsuccessfully) to convince her to go to a therapist who was actually qualified at that sort of thing. I am suspicious, however that you took pains to separate yourself into a new reference class before actually knowing that one way or the other. Unless of course you have a track record of taking massive psychological issues and successfully fixing them in other people and are we really doing this? I mean come on. A person offers to help and you immediately go for the throat, picking apart mistakes made in an attempt to help a person, then using rather personal things in a subtly judgemental manner. Do you foresee that kind of approach ending well? Is that really the way you want this sort of conversation to play out? I like to think we can do better.
I have information. Do you want it or not?