Are you suggesting that “people whose parental desires can only be satisfied in a world with a class of temporarily less-competent people” are dysfunctional, and not really the majority as I suspect?
Let me offer you some concepts for consideration. The concepts are: “responsibility” (as in “I’m responsible for the well-being and happiness of that human”), “bonding” (as in “The shared emotional experiences bonded us”), “caring” (as in “I care for that person, my happiness is a function of her happiness”), and, simply, “love” (as in “I love him”).
Let me offer you some concepts for consideration. The concepts are: “responsibility” (as in “I’m responsible for the well-being and happiness of that human”), “bonding” (as in “The shared emotional experiences bonded us”), “caring” (as in “I care for that person, my happiness is a function of her happiness”), and, simply, “love” (as in “I love him”).