Large parts of BDSM are about experiencing emotions that are commonly seen in a negative way in a positive way by setting a specific context. At the same time BDSM is not about repressing emotions at all.
There are plenty of different ways to interact with emotions and changing the context of how you relate to them. If you try it, don’t know what you are doing and do it wrong, there’s a lot of potential to mess things up.
I like focusing/IDC/belief reporting because they are techniques for dealing with emotions in a way where the risk of messing up important self-regulation processes is lower then with certain other techniques.
If you want control over emotions that’s comparable to your control about breathing, the Grinberg method has guided ways to learn it. At the same time there are reasons against going into that community. One problem that they have as a community is for example that they aren’t good at respecting personal boundaries.
Large parts of BDSM are about experiencing emotions that are commonly seen in a negative way in a positive way by setting a specific context. At the same time BDSM is not about repressing emotions at all.
There are plenty of different ways to interact with emotions and changing the context of how you relate to them. If you try it, don’t know what you are doing and do it wrong, there’s a lot of potential to mess things up.
I like focusing/IDC/belief reporting because they are techniques for dealing with emotions in a way where the risk of messing up important self-regulation processes is lower then with certain other techniques.
If you want control over emotions that’s comparable to your control about breathing, the Grinberg method has guided ways to learn it. At the same time there are reasons against going into that community. One problem that they have as a community is for example that they aren’t good at respecting personal boundaries.