I often have to make white lies or pretend to believe in things I don’t believe in, even though those things kill me inside.
Having a stable relationship with one person who has a flexible mind works well for me. I don’t have to lie, and I don’t get lonely.
Flexibility is more important than rationality. A person can learn rationality if they are flexible, but if they aren’t flexible they can’t learn anything at all.
I spent, or perhaps wasted, 8 years on my first marriage to learn the information in the previous paragraph, so pay attention. If you don’t want to spend large amounts of time on relationships that go nowhere, you have to judge people and reject the ones you don’t like, rather than compromise about things you care about. Too much acceptance can be a problem.
For relationships that are short term I found that it works well to look what people do, not what they think or belief in FAR mode. And I basically compartmentalize my friendships.
Having a stable relationship with one person who has a flexible mind works well for me. I don’t have to lie, and I don’t get lonely.
Flexibility is more important than rationality. A person can learn rationality if they are flexible, but if they aren’t flexible they can’t learn anything at all.
I spent, or perhaps wasted, 8 years on my first marriage to learn the information in the previous paragraph, so pay attention. If you don’t want to spend large amounts of time on relationships that go nowhere, you have to judge people and reject the ones you don’t like, rather than compromise about things you care about. Too much acceptance can be a problem.
For relationships that are short term I found that it works well to look what people do, not what they think or belief in FAR mode. And I basically compartmentalize my friendships.