What makes a discussion heavy? What requires that a conversation be conducted in a way that makes it heavy?
I feel like for a lot of people it just never has to be, but I’m pretty sure most people have triggers even if they’re not aware of it and it would help if we knew what sets this off so that we can root them out.
Fair question—I guess that a certain discussion doesn’t necessarily have to be “heavy” but I believe that humans are far less skilled at communication, especially in social settings, for the majority of these interactions to not flare up some level of insecurity, human bias, or offend someone’s held beliefs.
I personally would say that I’m quite good at navigating a social context while also being able to broach traditionally taboo’d topics, but I do not think this I represent the norm. The general heuristic of avoiding potentially controversial topics has served me well in most social settings like this, where I believe the purpose is for social connection on a lighter, surface level.
As I replied to a previous comment, I think I’d append my original comment that if OP was advocating for banning normal parties in favor of this format, I’d be against that. I suppose the idea I’m trying to communicate is that it’s important to know your setting and the social context before engaging in these types of behaviors, and that this habit will serve you far better in facilitating social connection.
What makes a discussion heavy? What requires that a conversation be conducted in a way that makes it heavy?
I feel like for a lot of people it just never has to be, but I’m pretty sure most people have triggers even if they’re not aware of it and it would help if we knew what sets this off so that we can root them out.
Fair question—I guess that a certain discussion doesn’t necessarily have to be “heavy” but I believe that humans are far less skilled at communication, especially in social settings, for the majority of these interactions to not flare up some level of insecurity, human bias, or offend someone’s held beliefs.
I personally would say that I’m quite good at navigating a social context while also being able to broach traditionally taboo’d topics, but I do not think this I represent the norm. The general heuristic of avoiding potentially controversial topics has served me well in most social settings like this, where I believe the purpose is for social connection on a lighter, surface level.
As I replied to a previous comment, I think I’d append my original comment that if OP was advocating for banning normal parties in favor of this format, I’d be against that. I suppose the idea I’m trying to communicate is that it’s important to know your setting and the social context before engaging in these types of behaviors, and that this habit will serve you far better in facilitating social connection.