In theory it seems an excellent way to practice what are called “openers” by PUAs, short introductory statements that grab peoples attention by amusing or engaging them. I should point out that some consider talking or flirting to other people with the intention of practicisng social skill unethical. I’m not sure why.
I’ve had very good experiences and made tons of new acquaintances just starting conversations with strangers in such a manner. This is somewhat rare behaviour in my culture.
Keep in mind that speed dating is an artificial situation. Seemingly trivial details unique to the setting will change outcomes considerably thus reducing how transferable the skills and calibration you gain will be. To give an example of such factors, it has been shown that when you rotate the men in such an event and the women stay put, they become choosier about the partner. When you reverse the roles men become choosier.
I’ve stopped trying to start conversations with strangers. When I considered it a ‘live option’ I didn’t think that I was getting enough conversations out the effort I was allocating. I imagine it would be a better option for people who were not as shy to begin with.
The reason that speed dating is attractive to me is that I don’t think that I could get many more conversations started in a speed dating environment because it would be expected that I would once I was in it.
Yeah, that’s good to keep in mind. I would expect that a lot of it wouldn’t transfer, but even if a small amount did it seems like it would be worth the investment for me.
Does anyone have experience with speed dating? Specifically did they find that it improved social skills? It seems like it would be very effective.
In theory it seems an excellent way to practice what are called “openers” by PUAs, short introductory statements that grab peoples attention by amusing or engaging them. I should point out that some consider talking or flirting to other people with the intention of practicisng social skill unethical. I’m not sure why.
I’ve had very good experiences and made tons of new acquaintances just starting conversations with strangers in such a manner. This is somewhat rare behaviour in my culture.
Keep in mind that speed dating is an artificial situation. Seemingly trivial details unique to the setting will change outcomes considerably thus reducing how transferable the skills and calibration you gain will be. To give an example of such factors, it has been shown that when you rotate the men in such an event and the women stay put, they become choosier about the partner. When you reverse the roles men become choosier.
I’ve stopped trying to start conversations with strangers. When I considered it a ‘live option’ I didn’t think that I was getting enough conversations out the effort I was allocating. I imagine it would be a better option for people who were not as shy to begin with.
The reason that speed dating is attractive to me is that I don’t think that I could get many more conversations started in a speed dating environment because it would be expected that I would once I was in it. Yeah, that’s good to keep in mind. I would expect that a lot of it wouldn’t transfer, but even if a small amount did it seems like it would be worth the investment for me.
Afterwards, if you ever want to impair your social skills again, I recommend speed trolling.