The idea of “creepiness” seems to be a relatively new social phenomenon
What the whuh? Perhaps the label is new (though I find that implausible too), but I really don’t think the behaviour as an observed phenomenon is. What do you base your statement on?
Hmm, I think I meant that the label is new, as well as the increased social consciousness of creepiness. A couple years ago, I realized that at my college, the two things everyone wanted to avoid being were “awkward” and “creepy”. I could tell because people would preface comments with “this is super awkward, but” or “I don’t mean to come across as creepy, but”. Usually, the comments would be anything but awkward or creepy, but prefacing the comment does a couple of useful things:
The speaker safeguards himself against being judged by anyone who might possibly find the comment awkward/creepy, or on the threshold of awkward/creepy. If he knows that he’s being awkward/creepy, at least no one will think he’s so socially maladjusted that he’s doing it by accident.
The speaker demonstrates that she’s not awkward/creepy. I mean, if she’s worried about a comment as innocuous as /that/ being perceived as awkward/creepy, she’s certainly not going to do anything /actually/ awkward/creepy!
The conspicuous self-consciousness and constant safeguarding against awkward/creepiness always annoyed me, so I’m likely responding to that as much as I’m responding to the content of this thread.
EDIT: Maybe I’m completely misinterpreting the social situation. Maybe in the past, people were unable to express anything potentially awkward/creepy for fear of being seen as such. And maybe the increased social consciousness and explicit prefacing allow people to discuss ideas or opinions that they previously wouldn’t have been able to say aloud at all.
What the whuh? Perhaps the label is new (though I find that implausible too), but I really don’t think the behaviour as an observed phenomenon is. What do you base your statement on?
Hmm, I think I meant that the label is new, as well as the increased social consciousness of creepiness. A couple years ago, I realized that at my college, the two things everyone wanted to avoid being were “awkward” and “creepy”. I could tell because people would preface comments with “this is super awkward, but” or “I don’t mean to come across as creepy, but”. Usually, the comments would be anything but awkward or creepy, but prefacing the comment does a couple of useful things:
The speaker safeguards himself against being judged by anyone who might possibly find the comment awkward/creepy, or on the threshold of awkward/creepy. If he knows that he’s being awkward/creepy, at least no one will think he’s so socially maladjusted that he’s doing it by accident.
The speaker demonstrates that she’s not awkward/creepy. I mean, if she’s worried about a comment as innocuous as /that/ being perceived as awkward/creepy, she’s certainly not going to do anything /actually/ awkward/creepy!
The conspicuous self-consciousness and constant safeguarding against awkward/creepiness always annoyed me, so I’m likely responding to that as much as I’m responding to the content of this thread.
EDIT: Maybe I’m completely misinterpreting the social situation. Maybe in the past, people were unable to express anything potentially awkward/creepy for fear of being seen as such. And maybe the increased social consciousness and explicit prefacing allow people to discuss ideas or opinions that they previously wouldn’t have been able to say aloud at all.