Outside of “pray the gay away” American silliness from some Churches I don’t think I see much pressure to marry with the opposite sex
I hear it a lot—I live in the US, I grew up in mostly liberal areas of it (and live in one now) and it’s still very common for me to hear, both in person and in media, the idea that queer people are confused, deviant or mentally-ill. I don’t tend to hear the suggestion that they’re demon-possessed outside of more “churchy” circles than I habitually frequent, but I do run into the attitude from time to time since I have a fair bit of contact with multiple culture groups in my everyday life (and pretty much all of them have their own flavor of homophobia).
What I was going for is that the social reality of homosexuality in some parts of the ancient world as it likely was has both ups and downs when compared to the social reality of homosexuality in the West today
Sure, I agree with you.
and that comparison to them is hard to use that as an argument that all modern societies are extremely intolerant of homosexuality.
Well, I didn’t mean to make that point by means of the comparison, but I do think it’s a true statement—I genuinely if you were to round up all the distinct societal groups in the world today (however you want to slice the distinctions—I’d say it’s true at both the level of communities and nation-states), you’d find that a big majority of them display homophobic/heterosexist norms. That’s not to say it’s the same kind or intensity everywhere, but my life as a queer person has left me rather disillusioned with the idea that even places with a reputation for “tolerance” or “acceptance” (say, a liberal city in Canada, which I’ve spent plenty of time in, and where same-sex marriage is just a thing, or the Netherlands, which I haven’t visited but have some friends from) are really, at a basic statistical level, not homophobic. I agree that in some places those norms have shifted so greatly that it’s not a major thing there, but I don’t think those places are really representative of the majority of human social groups or cultures, however finely-grained your definition of those things.
Some but not only.
I hear it a lot—I live in the US, I grew up in mostly liberal areas of it (and live in one now) and it’s still very common for me to hear, both in person and in media, the idea that queer people are confused, deviant or mentally-ill. I don’t tend to hear the suggestion that they’re demon-possessed outside of more “churchy” circles than I habitually frequent, but I do run into the attitude from time to time since I have a fair bit of contact with multiple culture groups in my everyday life (and pretty much all of them have their own flavor of homophobia).
Sure, I agree with you.
Well, I didn’t mean to make that point by means of the comparison, but I do think it’s a true statement—I genuinely if you were to round up all the distinct societal groups in the world today (however you want to slice the distinctions—I’d say it’s true at both the level of communities and nation-states), you’d find that a big majority of them display homophobic/heterosexist norms. That’s not to say it’s the same kind or intensity everywhere, but my life as a queer person has left me rather disillusioned with the idea that even places with a reputation for “tolerance” or “acceptance” (say, a liberal city in Canada, which I’ve spent plenty of time in, and where same-sex marriage is just a thing, or the Netherlands, which I haven’t visited but have some friends from) are really, at a basic statistical level, not homophobic. I agree that in some places those norms have shifted so greatly that it’s not a major thing there, but I don’t think those places are really representative of the majority of human social groups or cultures, however finely-grained your definition of those things.