One more behavior: I took a survey (which I can’t find again) about hugging from behind, and everyone who answered hated it, except for a few who had a short list of people who they permitted it from.
I didn’t have a random or especially large sample, but the unanimity was striking.
I like being hugged from behind...by a very small number of people. From everyone else, it’s quite unwanted.
This has had an interesting effect; if someone hugs me from behind, I unconsciously either put them in a bucket of people that I like a great deal, or make myself uncomfortable by telling them “don’t do that”. There’s an odd bit of wiggle room in there, where someone might make me like them more by doing something somewhat uncomfortable to me. If this happened more often, I would take more care to address this particular bias; I also suspect there are subtler variants that I haven’t recognized (I only just realized the above while reflecting on your post).
One more behavior: I took a survey (which I can’t find again) about hugging from behind, and everyone who answered hated it, except for a few who had a short list of people who they permitted it from.
I didn’t have a random or especially large sample, but the unanimity was striking.
I like being hugged from behind...by a very small number of people. From everyone else, it’s quite unwanted.
This has had an interesting effect; if someone hugs me from behind, I unconsciously either put them in a bucket of people that I like a great deal, or make myself uncomfortable by telling them “don’t do that”. There’s an odd bit of wiggle room in there, where someone might make me like them more by doing something somewhat uncomfortable to me. If this happened more often, I would take more care to address this particular bias; I also suspect there are subtler variants that I haven’t recognized (I only just realized the above while reflecting on your post).