If you’re dealing with a person with a person with poor social skills, the onus is already on you
As a person with poor-to-middling social skills at the best of times: no, that’s silly and I reject it as a working premise for conflict resolution and group interaction.
Establishing a social norm that hey, some folks here might be autistic or poorly socialized or otherwise have some difficulties with the usual set of interactions is completely different from establishing a norm that whenever someone failing at some element of socialization, and thereby causing others to feel unsafe, pressured or disturbed, then those who’ve had the reaction are obligated to see the situation resolved to that first party’s favor.
I didn’t say that. You can do what you want. But if someone made you feel uncomfortable, you already feel uncomfortable. Should they not have made you feel uncomfortable? Yes. Is it fair? No.
What are you going to do about it? That’s the only question you get to answer.
As a person with poor-to-middling social skills at the best of times: no, that’s silly and I reject it as a working premise for conflict resolution and group interaction.
Establishing a social norm that hey, some folks here might be autistic or poorly socialized or otherwise have some difficulties with the usual set of interactions is completely different from establishing a norm that whenever someone failing at some element of socialization, and thereby causing others to feel unsafe, pressured or disturbed, then those who’ve had the reaction are obligated to see the situation resolved to that first party’s favor.
I didn’t say that. You can do what you want. But if someone made you feel uncomfortable, you already feel uncomfortable. Should they not have made you feel uncomfortable? Yes. Is it fair? No.
What are you going to do about it? That’s the only question you get to answer.
You’re swinging rather wide of my point, here.
The point of my post was: you may have swung rather wide of mine.