While this kind of advice seems useful, I do wish those articles you linked wouldn’t attempt to stay gender-neutral: many of our social norms are gender-specific, and describing them with minimal reference to gender is going to be inaccurate!
In addition to that, the gender ratio in this community and in many nerdy/geeky communities (open source, sci-fi fandom, atheism, etc.) means that a majority of the “creepiness problem” is going to be a guy creeping out a girl, and not some other combination—since that’s the kind of interaction that needs the most “fixing”, why not focus exclusively on it?
It’s nice to try to find a general rule that applies to many cases, but if you’re giving a talk to a bunch of people about to go camping and hiking in British Columbia, “How to avoid getting mauled to death by a Grizzly Bear” is more useful than “How to avoid large carnivores, like Tigers, Bears and Lions”.
While this kind of advice seems useful, I do wish those articles you linked wouldn’t attempt to stay gender-neutral: many of our social norms are gender-specific, and describing them with minimal reference to gender is going to be inaccurate!
Yes, but the gender-specific aspects vary from culture to culture, even within the First World. (Silly example: it is normal throughout Italy to greet a female friend by kissing her on the cheeks, but greeting a male friend that way is normal for some Italians, unusual for others—i.e. they only do that with close friends they haven’t seen in a while--, and almost unthinkable for others still.)
While this kind of advice seems useful, I do wish those articles you linked wouldn’t attempt to stay gender-neutral: many of our social norms are gender-specific, and describing them with minimal reference to gender is going to be inaccurate!
In addition to that, the gender ratio in this community and in many nerdy/geeky communities (open source, sci-fi fandom, atheism, etc.) means that a majority of the “creepiness problem” is going to be a guy creeping out a girl, and not some other combination—since that’s the kind of interaction that needs the most “fixing”, why not focus exclusively on it?
It’s nice to try to find a general rule that applies to many cases, but if you’re giving a talk to a bunch of people about to go camping and hiking in British Columbia, “How to avoid getting mauled to death by a Grizzly Bear” is more useful than “How to avoid large carnivores, like Tigers, Bears and Lions”.
Yes, but the gender-specific aspects vary from culture to culture, even within the First World. (Silly example: it is normal throughout Italy to greet a female friend by kissing her on the cheeks, but greeting a male friend that way is normal for some Italians, unusual for others—i.e. they only do that with close friends they haven’t seen in a while--, and almost unthinkable for others still.)
Sure! But the gender-invariant rules also vary from culture to culture.
(I’m French by the way, we have the same cheek-kissing as you italians, and I think neither of us hugs nearly as much as those weird Americans)
And “what creeps a person out” varies between cultures and also significantly within a culture.