In theory, I think it would be possible to have an alliance-building PUA model of relationships, and it would still be Quirrelesque.
HughRistik had a different list of benign elements in PUA, I think—but have any of the benign styles shown up at LW?
I’m not sure whether this is relevant, but it took me a while to put what bothers me about PUA as I’ve seen it into words, and longer than that to pull together the nerve to post about it.
Appeared with sufficient force to make an impression.
This is admittedly subjective (and probably incomplete—I don’t read everything at LW), but what I saw was probably mid-range PUA—neither grossly misogynistic nor obviously benign—combined with claims that there are excellent elements in PUA and I shouldn’t stereotype it by its worst.
The stuff that’s particularly benign in PUA is also the stuff that PUA has no monopoly on.
But yeah, I think that the true rejection is just how Quirrel-ish it is. Not harmful, not unprincipled, but just how it seems to be written for the sake of sexytimes alone.
Non-zero sum? I’m not sure that’s the issue.
In theory, I think it would be possible to have an alliance-building PUA model of relationships, and it would still be Quirrelesque.
HughRistik had a different list of benign elements in PUA, I think—but have any of the benign styles shown up at LW?
I’m not sure whether this is relevant, but it took me a while to put what bothers me about PUA as I’ve seen it into words, and longer than that to pull together the nerve to post about it.
I agree; it’s just a symptom. “A universe where no one likes anybody” is a much better summation.
Define “shown up”.
Appeared with sufficient force to make an impression.
This is admittedly subjective (and probably incomplete—I don’t read everything at LW), but what I saw was probably mid-range PUA—neither grossly misogynistic nor obviously benign—combined with claims that there are excellent elements in PUA and I shouldn’t stereotype it by its worst.
The stuff that’s particularly benign in PUA is also the stuff that PUA has no monopoly on.
But yeah, I think that the true rejection is just how Quirrel-ish it is. Not harmful, not unprincipled, but just how it seems to be written for the sake of sexytimes alone.