Updating one’s unconsciously regulated social behavior is impossible in the general case, and in most of the desirable >concrete cases too.
I don’t see why that should necessarily be the case. It would simply require specifying the desired behavior and bringing it into the realm of the conscious until the new behavior is learned.
For example, if I were able to realize that a major barrier to my social communication is my lack of eye contact, I could make a deliberate effort to always make eye contact when having conversations. Ideally this behavior would eventually become internalized, but even if it didn’t there’s no actual reason why I couldn’t keep it up for the rest of my life.
I don’t see why that should necessarily be the case. It would simply require specifying the desired behavior and bringing it into the realm of the conscious until the new behavior is learned.
For example, if I were able to realize that a major barrier to my social communication is my lack of eye contact, I could make a deliberate effort to always make eye contact when having conversations. Ideally this behavior would eventually become internalized, but even if it didn’t there’s no actual reason why I couldn’t keep it up for the rest of my life.