There are basically two ways: (1) Learn to feel when you make other people uncomfortable. (2) Follow a set of rules that make your interactions safe.
Another piece would be learning how to recognize when people are attracted to you—a fair number of people (perhaps especially geeks) aren’t reliably good at that.
It’s an important skill but it’s not enough. Even a girl that’s attracted to you can get uncomfortable if you touch her too much.
A shy girl might get uncomfortable with physical touch from a guy she’s attracted to.
Another girl who isn’t attracted to the same guy might find the same amount of physical touch acceptable.
Another piece would be learning how to recognize when people are attracted to you—a fair number of people (perhaps especially geeks) aren’t reliably good at that.
It’s an important skill but it’s not enough. Even a girl that’s attracted to you can get uncomfortable if you touch her too much.
A shy girl might get uncomfortable with physical touch from a guy she’s attracted to. Another girl who isn’t attracted to the same guy might find the same amount of physical touch acceptable.
Yes. I creeped out girls who had cold-approached me first a few times in the past.
Wow, that’s impressive. :)
I agree with your comment.
It’s just that noticing when someone is attracted to you frequently gets left out of advice.
I’m selfishly glad my husband was late in learning that. If he’d learned sooner, he’d have been married to someone else long before we met. :-)