Part of the problem is that the very large majority of people I run into have minds which fall into a relatively low-dimensional set and can be “ray traced” with fairly little effort. It’s especially bad in EA circles.
Then I misunderstood your original comment, sorry. As a different commenter wrote, the obvious solution would be to only engage with interesting people. But, of course, unworkable in practice. And “social grooming” nearly always involves some level of talking. A curse of our language abilities, I guess. Other social animals don’t have that particular problem.
The next best solution would be higher efficiency, more socializing bang for your word count buck, so to speak. Shorter conversations for the same social effect. Not usually a focus of anything billed as conversation guide, for obvious reasons. But there are some methods aimed at different goals that, in my experience, also help with this as a side effect.
Part of the problem is that the very large majority of people I run into have minds which fall into a relatively low-dimensional set and can be “ray traced” with fairly little effort. It’s especially bad in EA circles.
Then I misunderstood your original comment, sorry. As a different commenter wrote, the obvious solution would be to only engage with interesting people. But, of course, unworkable in practice. And “social grooming” nearly always involves some level of talking. A curse of our language abilities, I guess. Other social animals don’t have that particular problem.
The next best solution would be higher efficiency, more socializing bang for your word count buck, so to speak. Shorter conversations for the same social effect. Not usually a focus of anything billed as conversation guide, for obvious reasons. But there are some methods aimed at different goals that, in my experience, also help with this as a side effect.