Even for serious intellectual conversations, something I appreciate in this kind of advice is that it often encourages computational kindness. E.g. it’s much easier to answer a compact closed question like “which of these three options do you prefer” instead of an open question like “where should we go to eat for lunch”. The same applies to asking someone about their research; not every intellectual conversation benefits from big open questions like the Hamming Question.
I think this is especially important for me/us to remember. On this site we often have a complex way of thinking, and a high computational budget (because we like exercising our brains to failure) and if we speak freely to the average person, they mat be annoyed at how hard it is to parse what we are saying.
We’ve all probably had this experience when genuinely trying to understand someone from a very different background. Perhaps they are trying to describe their inner experience when mediating, or Japanese poetry, or are simply from a different’t discipline. Or perhaps we were just very tired that day, meaning we had a low computational budget.
On the other hand, we are often a “tell” culture, which had a lower computational load compared to ask or guess culture. As long as we don’t tell too much.
Even for serious intellectual conversations, something I appreciate in this kind of advice is that it often encourages computational kindness. E.g. it’s much easier to answer a compact closed question like “which of these three options do you prefer” instead of an open question like “where should we go to eat for lunch”. The same applies to asking someone about their research; not every intellectual conversation benefits from big open questions like the Hamming Question.
I think this is especially important for me/us to remember. On this site we often have a complex way of thinking, and a high computational budget (because we like exercising our brains to failure) and if we speak freely to the average person, they mat be annoyed at how hard it is to parse what we are saying.
We’ve all probably had this experience when genuinely trying to understand someone from a very different background. Perhaps they are trying to describe their inner experience when mediating, or Japanese poetry, or are simply from a different’t discipline. Or perhaps we were just very tired that day, meaning we had a low computational budget.
On the other hand, we are often a “tell” culture, which had a lower computational load compared to ask or guess culture. As long as we don’t tell too much.