Another view would be that people want to be good at conversation not only because they find it fun but there is utility in building rapport quickly, networking and not being cast as a cold person.
I do find the ice breaky, cached Q&A stuff really boring and tend to want to find an excuse to run away quickly, something that happens often at the dreaded “work event”. I tend to see it as almost fully acting a part despite my internal feelings
At these things, I do occasionally come across the good conversationalist, able to make me want to stick with speaking to them even if the convo is not that deep or in my interest areas. I think becoming like such a person isn’t a herculean task but does take practice and is something I aspire too
This is more from a professional setting though, in a casual setting it’s much easier to disengage from a boring person, find shared interests and the convos have much less boundaries
Another view would be that people want to be good at conversation not only because they find it fun but there is utility in building rapport quickly, networking and not being cast as a cold person.
I do find the ice breaky, cached Q&A stuff really boring and tend to want to find an excuse to run away quickly, something that happens often at the dreaded “work event”. I tend to see it as almost fully acting a part despite my internal feelings
At these things, I do occasionally come across the good conversationalist, able to make me want to stick with speaking to them even if the convo is not that deep or in my interest areas. I think becoming like such a person isn’t a herculean task but does take practice and is something I aspire too
This is more from a professional setting though, in a casual setting it’s much easier to disengage from a boring person, find shared interests and the convos have much less boundaries