What is so much better about altruism than about just living your life however the hell you want? Whence the superiority?
I see two utility functions, I’m gonna prefer the one which is more in tune with my own needs. That is, I too would like everyone else to be a perfect altruist if that translates to them helping me fulfill my own preferences. The impression you exude is that you have a more objective, general notion in mind of why incorporating other-preferences into your own so strongly is somehow superior.
Would you share it? Why doesn’t it apply to the girl? If you were the girl in the situation, should you not oblige the guy and sleep with him, without him having to listen to her dopey? Clearly it’s his strong preference, no? So why wouldn’t you?
Using ‘selfish’ to mean maximising your own utility function also bleeds meaning out of things: by what possible definition would someone not be selfish here?
That’s just it, you can’t. I don’t see it as removing pertinent meaning, but more of as the removal of a misconception. Someone helping others out, because he likes the social affirmation he was taught to associate with it, is doing so because he originally liked the social affirmation and has grown to expect it, no different from the bell chiming for the Pavlovian dog. I still like people helping me out for doing so, but that doesn’t mean they don’t do so for selfish reasons (maybe they like me liking them) and/or having been conditioned.
In another sense, we can of course use ‘selfish’ to denote how much or how little other-preferences play a role in your own preferences, as long as we don’t forget that you maximize other-preferences because that’s what your own preferences are.
I’d also be interested in what ‘valuing people’ you got from what I was responding to:
Not to be facetious: He could rob her, drug her (in scenarios without palpable legal repercussions for him), use her insecurities to convince her to drop out of school to be at his beck and call. Instead, his behavior is more balanced: He seems like he’s willing to compromise some of her preferences (“only want to be with an honest guy”), help out some of her other preferences (“spent a great evening with a guy who takes my issues seriously, feel affirmed”), but does not strictly disregard all her preferences.
Seems like valuing her preferences—above being indifferent to them—to me. Let’s not underestimate the gravity of what “I dont care what happens to her at all” would actually mean. Empathy, to some degree, is ingrained in all of us. So are social boundaries, by ways of early conditioning. But, as always, just because we can explain the way our norms and instincts evolved does not make them superior in some objective sense to any others (that would be a naturalistic fallacy). Which does not preclude us from preferring others with values that more benefit our own, without putting such altruism on some pseudo-objective pedestal.
Someone helping others out, because he likes the social affirmation he was taught to associate with it, is doing so because he originally liked the social affirmation and has grown to expect it, no different from the bell chiming for the Pavlovian dog. I still like people helping me out for doing so, but that doesn’t mean they don’t do so for selfish reasons (maybe they like me liking them) and/or having been conditioned.
I do think altruism is superior: I’m not sure how exactly to unpack ethical statements, but I believe altruism is better than egoism, definitely. I also think that ‘selfishness’ has a very well understood meaning about maximising your own happiness/power/whatever and that redefining it so that it’s selfish to do what you think is right is fairly pointless. ‘Preferences’ is a ridiculously broad term and you seem to be treating ‘people follow their preferences’ as true by definition, meaning that ‘people are selfish’ doesn’t have much content as a claim.
In practice, people aren’t perfect altruists: but defining however you act as maximising your utility function and therefore just as good as anything else is just a refusal to engage on ethics: you end up reverting to brute force (‘I cannot object ethically to the fact your utility function involves rape and murder: but I can oppose you based on my utility function’). Not sure what good moving all ethical debate to this level achieves.
Oh, and on the altrustically having sex approach: again, we live in a society where we reasonably expect non-inteference and non-deception but don’t usually expect people to actively do what they don’t want to do: a theoretical utility-maximiser might have sex with people they’re not attracted to, sure.
On valuing people: I would understand valuing someone to go beyond the level of ‘I won’t actively harm and abuse you on a whim’. Although even in the hard sense of valuing (does he care about her at all) the statement that kicked this off doesn’t demonstrate any consideration for her experience. As you note, raping/drugging etc. have bad consequences for him, and as for getting her to drop out, I imagine it would be far more effort, have far more unpredictable results (her or friends might end up getting revenge for you screwing up her life) and not worth it if he just wants sex.
a theoretical utility-maximiser might have sex with people they’re not attracted to, sure
It depends on what their utility function is—assuming the orthogonality thesis, for any X whatsoever there’s a theoretical utility maximiser who might do X, so that’s not terribly informative about X.
What is so much better about altruism than about just living your life however the hell you want? Whence the superiority?
I see two utility functions, I’m gonna prefer the one which is more in tune with my own needs. That is, I too would like everyone else to be a perfect altruist if that translates to them helping me fulfill my own preferences. The impression you exude is that you have a more objective, general notion in mind of why incorporating other-preferences into your own so strongly is somehow superior.
Would you share it? Why doesn’t it apply to the girl? If you were the girl in the situation, should you not oblige the guy and sleep with him, without him having to listen to her dopey? Clearly it’s his strong preference, no? So why wouldn’t you?
That’s just it, you can’t. I don’t see it as removing pertinent meaning, but more of as the removal of a misconception. Someone helping others out, because he likes the social affirmation he was taught to associate with it, is doing so because he originally liked the social affirmation and has grown to expect it, no different from the bell chiming for the Pavlovian dog. I still like people helping me out for doing so, but that doesn’t mean they don’t do so for selfish reasons (maybe they like me liking them) and/or having been conditioned.
In another sense, we can of course use ‘selfish’ to denote how much or how little other-preferences play a role in your own preferences, as long as we don’t forget that you maximize other-preferences because that’s what your own preferences are.
Not to be facetious: He could rob her, drug her (in scenarios without palpable legal repercussions for him), use her insecurities to convince her to drop out of school to be at his beck and call. Instead, his behavior is more balanced: He seems like he’s willing to compromise some of her preferences (“only want to be with an honest guy”), help out some of her other preferences (“spent a great evening with a guy who takes my issues seriously, feel affirmed”), but does not strictly disregard all her preferences.
Seems like valuing her preferences—above being indifferent to them—to me. Let’s not underestimate the gravity of what “I dont care what happens to her at all” would actually mean. Empathy, to some degree, is ingrained in all of us. So are social boundaries, by ways of early conditioning. But, as always, just because we can explain the way our norms and instincts evolved does not make them superior in some objective sense to any others (that would be a naturalistic fallacy). Which does not preclude us from preferring others with values that more benefit our own, without putting such altruism on some pseudo-objective pedestal.
“So which of these two is the actual altruist? Whichever one actually holds open doors for little old ladies.”
I do think altruism is superior: I’m not sure how exactly to unpack ethical statements, but I believe altruism is better than egoism, definitely. I also think that ‘selfishness’ has a very well understood meaning about maximising your own happiness/power/whatever and that redefining it so that it’s selfish to do what you think is right is fairly pointless. ‘Preferences’ is a ridiculously broad term and you seem to be treating ‘people follow their preferences’ as true by definition, meaning that ‘people are selfish’ doesn’t have much content as a claim.
In practice, people aren’t perfect altruists: but defining however you act as maximising your utility function and therefore just as good as anything else is just a refusal to engage on ethics: you end up reverting to brute force (‘I cannot object ethically to the fact your utility function involves rape and murder: but I can oppose you based on my utility function’). Not sure what good moving all ethical debate to this level achieves.
Oh, and on the altrustically having sex approach: again, we live in a society where we reasonably expect non-inteference and non-deception but don’t usually expect people to actively do what they don’t want to do: a theoretical utility-maximiser might have sex with people they’re not attracted to, sure.
On valuing people: I would understand valuing someone to go beyond the level of ‘I won’t actively harm and abuse you on a whim’. Although even in the hard sense of valuing (does he care about her at all) the statement that kicked this off doesn’t demonstrate any consideration for her experience. As you note, raping/drugging etc. have bad consequences for him, and as for getting her to drop out, I imagine it would be far more effort, have far more unpredictable results (her or friends might end up getting revenge for you screwing up her life) and not worth it if he just wants sex.
It depends on what their utility function is—assuming the orthogonality thesis, for any X whatsoever there’s a theoretical utility maximiser who might do X, so that’s not terribly informative about X.