I’m really sorry if I hurt or offended you. I assumed that a brief description of where I was at would be preferred to not replying at all. I clearly was incorrect about that.
I disagree with some of your specific implications. I’m fairly sure though that you’d disagree with my responses. I could easily imagine that you’ve already predicted them, well enough, and wouldn’t find them very informative, particularly for what I could write in a few sentences.
This isn’t unusual for me. I try to stay out of almost all online discussion. I have things to do, I’m sure you have things to do as well. Online discussion is costly, and it’s especially costly when people know very little about each other[1], and the conversation topic (White Fragility) is as controversial as this one is.
[1]: I know almost nothing about you. I feel like I’d have a very difficult time feeling comfortable saying things in ways I can predict you’d be receptive to, or things that you wouldn’t actively attack me for. I find that I’ve had a difficult time modeling people online; particularly people who I barely know. This could easily lead to problems of several different kinds. It’s very, very possible that none of this applies to you, but it would take a fair amount of discussion for me to find that out and feel safe with my impressions of you. This also applies for all the other people I don’t know, but who might be watching this conversation or jump in at any point.
I’m really sorry if I hurt or offended you. I assumed that a brief description of where I was at would be preferred to not replying at all. I clearly was incorrect about that.
I disagree with some of your specific implications. I’m fairly sure though that you’d disagree with my responses. I could easily imagine that you’ve already predicted them, well enough, and wouldn’t find them very informative, particularly for what I could write in a few sentences.
This isn’t unusual for me. I try to stay out of almost all online discussion. I have things to do, I’m sure you have things to do as well. Online discussion is costly, and it’s especially costly when people know very little about each other[1], and the conversation topic (White Fragility) is as controversial as this one is.
[1]: I know almost nothing about you. I feel like I’d have a very difficult time feeling comfortable saying things in ways I can predict you’d be receptive to, or things that you wouldn’t actively attack me for. I find that I’ve had a difficult time modeling people online; particularly people who I barely know. This could easily lead to problems of several different kinds. It’s very, very possible that none of this applies to you, but it would take a fair amount of discussion for me to find that out and feel safe with my impressions of you. This also applies for all the other people I don’t know, but who might be watching this conversation or jump in at any point.