What westward is talking about is a girl being attacked for being a girl.
I don’t this particularly convincing. She likely could have “managed” his oppressive expectations with sufficient obedience and deference as well.
And I don’t want to be speculating on his situation in the third person. Unless you’ve discussed these issues personally with him, I think you’re jumping to conclusions based on what he said.
I get the feeling we’ve been here before. The previous installment of The LW Women Speak? One limitation I saw last time was the arguing over broad generalizations, particularly over the balance of harm. This tends to look and feel like the minimizing of harm.
So to be concrete, I strongly disapprove of a father shrieking “whore” at their daughters, and see great harm to a daughter in it.
If there are more failure modes for being female than male, it’s worth noting that the target a girl would be trying to hit with expectation management is a lot smaller.
If social expectations are for women to be expectation-managers more than men … possibly related?
I don’t think smaller vs. bigger makes sense—basically incommeasurable in terms of size. In terms of being comparable, off the top of my head I’d that that girls are expected to refrain more, while boys are expected to achieve more. It’s more stultifying to have to refrain, but in one sense easier, since it is a matter of will and not talent. From the judgment of their parents, girls may be considered rule violators, but they aren’t subject to failure as much as boys are.
I don’t this particularly convincing. She likely could have “managed” his oppressive expectations with sufficient obedience and deference as well.
And I don’t want to be speculating on his situation in the third person. Unless you’ve discussed these issues personally with him, I think you’re jumping to conclusions based on what he said.
I get the feeling we’ve been here before. The previous installment of The LW Women Speak? One limitation I saw last time was the arguing over broad generalizations, particularly over the balance of harm. This tends to look and feel like the minimizing of harm.
So to be concrete, I strongly disapprove of a father shrieking “whore” at their daughters, and see great harm to a daughter in it.
For a series of videos on the lifelong liability of child abuse, see Stefan Molyneux: http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLB3F2CF45EEB95C80
If there are more failure modes for being female than male, it’s worth noting that the target a girl would be trying to hit with expectation management is a lot smaller.
If social expectations are for women to be expectation-managers more than men … possibly related?
I don’t think smaller vs. bigger makes sense—basically incommeasurable in terms of size. In terms of being comparable, off the top of my head I’d that that girls are expected to refrain more, while boys are expected to achieve more. It’s more stultifying to have to refrain, but in one sense easier, since it is a matter of will and not talent. From the judgment of their parents, girls may be considered rule violators, but they aren’t subject to failure as much as boys are.