I don’t think my then-girlfriend waking me up with oral sex—that’s sex without consent, incidentally, and she and I had a very serious conversation about that afterwards, and set some boundaries for implicit consent for future use—is the same kind of act as what is commonly thought of as rape. I certainly don’t think the legal punishments should be the same.
There are necessary gradients.
I don’t think my then-girlfriend waking me up with oral sex—that’s sex without consent, incidentally, and she and I had a very serious conversation about that afterwards, and set some boundaries for implicit consent for future use—is the same kind of act as what is commonly thought of as rape. I certainly don’t think the legal punishments should be the same.