A creep is a man who gives the impression of trying to insist on unwanted intimacy
That’s pretty much what I consider to be the essence of creepy. I consider it the threat of a desire for increased intimacy where it isn’t wanted—not really insisted upon, because isn’t the guy hangs around but won’t come to the point even more creepy than the guy who directly asks you out?
But others insisted that it had to do with threat of assault, sexual or otherwise. Likely people just have different usages, but I’d think fear, anger, panic would figure much more into that case, besides just revulsion and aversion. Creepy seems much more of an ick factor related to a person who wants to get closer to you.
I’m not denying that there can be some status issues, but they don’t offer a universal explanation.
I absolutely agree. I don’t think the status issues are universal, they’re just one form the threat can take. Much of it is just the natural discomfort of having to deal with rejection. Rejection makes people uncomfortable from either side. Having someone interested and having to reject them is no fun. Part of creepiness is not following through on the “threat” and propositioning, so that the threat is always just hanging out there floating over the creep, and he seems even lower status for his fearfulness and lack of confidence.
That’s pretty much what I consider to be the essence of creepy. I consider it the threat of a desire for increased intimacy where it isn’t wanted—not really insisted upon, because isn’t the guy hangs around but won’t come to the point even more creepy than the guy who directly asks you out?
But others insisted that it had to do with threat of assault, sexual or otherwise. Likely people just have different usages, but I’d think fear, anger, panic would figure much more into that case, besides just revulsion and aversion. Creepy seems much more of an ick factor related to a person who wants to get closer to you.
I absolutely agree. I don’t think the status issues are universal, they’re just one form the threat can take. Much of it is just the natural discomfort of having to deal with rejection. Rejection makes people uncomfortable from either side. Having someone interested and having to reject them is no fun. Part of creepiness is not following through on the “threat” and propositioning, so that the threat is always just hanging out there floating over the creep, and he seems even lower status for his fearfulness and lack of confidence.