You shouldn’t ever feel safe, because something bad could happen at any time. To think otherwise is an error of rationality.
I’m curious, do you hear this as often from those with the emotional literacy to usefully differentiate “think” or “assume” from “feel”?
Usually there’s little harm done from failing to clearly differentiate assumptions from feelings, but this is an interesting edge case where the framing “you should never assume you’re totally safe” seems obviously useful and correct, but it’s easy to conflate with the obviously unhelpful and incorrect “you should never feel safe”.
Good question, I think often there’s been a failure to differentiate going on. Though it’s been quite a while since I spoke to some of the people I was thinking of so my recollection of them might be misleading (and others I’ve only heard about through second-hand accounts).
I’m curious, do you hear this as often from those with the emotional literacy to usefully differentiate “think” or “assume” from “feel”?
Usually there’s little harm done from failing to clearly differentiate assumptions from feelings, but this is an interesting edge case where the framing “you should never assume you’re totally safe” seems obviously useful and correct, but it’s easy to conflate with the obviously unhelpful and incorrect “you should never feel safe”.
Good question, I think often there’s been a failure to differentiate going on. Though it’s been quite a while since I spoke to some of the people I was thinking of so my recollection of them might be misleading (and others I’ve only heard about through second-hand accounts).