The only reason that I can see for lying to oneself is that one would not like one’s own reaction to the truth.
“reaction” means different things for himself and for his family.
I doubt he would refuse to talk to himself at the dinner table, or constantly tell himself “if you don’t listen to me you’ll go to Hell”, or keep bringing up the subject in conversations with himself to make himself feel guilty. On the other hand, I can see his family doing that.
I had read the article as being about lying about one’s own thoughts and internal mental state in order to achieve what appears to be an optimal outcome; which is exactly what the original poster was asking about.
The case described in the article is a case where someone wants to lie in order to spread his ideas more effectively. While that is a type of optimal outcome, describing it as such loses nuance; there’s a difference between lying to spread your ideas and lying to conceal them.
I doubt he would refuse to talk to himself at the dinner table, or constantly tell himself “if you don’t listen to me you’ll go to Hell”, or keep bringing up the subject in conversations with himself to make himself feel guilty.
Based on his description of their probable reaction, I doubt his family would do that either. I may be wrong; but all of those would be counterproductive behaviours if indulged in by his family, as they would tend to push him further away.
The case described in the article is a case where someone wants to lie in order to spread his ideas more effectively.
That is the case described, yes. It just seems to me that you are reading it too narrowly, applying it only to that single case.
I mean, consider the introduction (quote snipped slightly for brevity):
Every now and then, another one comes before me with the brilliant idea: “Let’s lie!”
Lie about what?—oh, various things. (some examples snipped for brevity)
But at any rate, lie. Lie because it’s more convenient than trying to explain the truth. Lie, because someone else might lie, and so we have to make sure that we lie first. Lie to grab the tempting benefits, hanging just within reach—
Eh? Ethics? Well, now that you mention it, lying is at least a little bad, all else being equal. But with so much at stake, we should just ignore that and lie. You’ve got to follow the expected utility, right? The loss of a lie is much less than the benefit to be gained, right?
Thus do they argue. Except—what’s the flaw in the argument? Wouldn’t it be irrational not to lie, if lying has the greatest expected utility?
Thus, the introduction is framed in terms of lying in an attempt to follow the greatest expected utility; and then the article goes into depth in regards to why this is a bad idea in practice. The introduction does not specify that that utility must lie in spreading ideas.
Now, the given examples of various types of lie (snipped for brevity in the quote above), are all examples of trying to spread ideas; but that is not the only type of lie that can be told, and those are merely illustrative examples, not an exhaustive list.
I doubt his family would do that either.. all of those would be counterproductive behaviours if indulged in by his family
Unfortunately, in the real world, family does often do counterproductive things, especially when serious religious beliefs are involved.
By the way, what would you suggest to a gay teenager who is afraid that telling the truth would lead to getting thrown out of the house?
The introduction does not specify that that utility must lie in spreading ideas.
But the reasons he gives don’t equally apply to spreading and concealing ideas. Lying to conceal your ideas means bringing it up in response to someone else’s actions (or perhaps, their anticipated actions). It’s not right to describe that as “to grab the tempting benefits” when the “benefit” consists of not being harassed. “Lie, because someone else might lie” certainly isn’t a good description of lying to conceal your beliefs.
Unfortunately, in the real world, family does often do counterproductive things, especially when serious religious beliefs are involved.
I suspect that one of us, probably both, are falling prey to the Typical Family Fallacy. It’s similar to the Typical Mind Fallacy, only it applies to families instead.
By the way, what would you suggest to a gay teenager who is afraid that telling the truth would lead to getting thrown out of the house?
I’d recommend making sure to have someplace to move to prepared, in advance, before telling his parents. (This might take a few years to set up). The negative consequences, in such a case, appear sufficiently bad to justify caution, even temporary concealment of the truth.
I’d also recommend finding some other mentor, or authority figure, that he can trust to talk about the situation with. This other mentor might be a school counsellor, a priest, an aunt or uncle, a teacher, or a school janitor; anyone reasonably sensible who would be willing to not inform his parents would do.
It’s not right to describe that as “to grab the tempting benefits” when the “benefit” consists of not being harassed.
That seems like a pretty tempting benefit to me.
“Lie, because someone else might lie” certainly isn’t a good description of lying to conceal your beliefs.
That is true. It does apply to some other forms of “lie to grab the tempting benefits”, though.
“reaction” means different things for himself and for his family.
I doubt he would refuse to talk to himself at the dinner table, or constantly tell himself “if you don’t listen to me you’ll go to Hell”, or keep bringing up the subject in conversations with himself to make himself feel guilty. On the other hand, I can see his family doing that.
The case described in the article is a case where someone wants to lie in order to spread his ideas more effectively. While that is a type of optimal outcome, describing it as such loses nuance; there’s a difference between lying to spread your ideas and lying to conceal them.
Based on his description of their probable reaction, I doubt his family would do that either. I may be wrong; but all of those would be counterproductive behaviours if indulged in by his family, as they would tend to push him further away.
That is the case described, yes. It just seems to me that you are reading it too narrowly, applying it only to that single case.
I mean, consider the introduction (quote snipped slightly for brevity):
Thus, the introduction is framed in terms of lying in an attempt to follow the greatest expected utility; and then the article goes into depth in regards to why this is a bad idea in practice. The introduction does not specify that that utility must lie in spreading ideas.
Now, the given examples of various types of lie (snipped for brevity in the quote above), are all examples of trying to spread ideas; but that is not the only type of lie that can be told, and those are merely illustrative examples, not an exhaustive list.
Unfortunately, in the real world, family does often do counterproductive things, especially when serious religious beliefs are involved.
By the way, what would you suggest to a gay teenager who is afraid that telling the truth would lead to getting thrown out of the house?
But the reasons he gives don’t equally apply to spreading and concealing ideas. Lying to conceal your ideas means bringing it up in response to someone else’s actions (or perhaps, their anticipated actions). It’s not right to describe that as “to grab the tempting benefits” when the “benefit” consists of not being harassed. “Lie, because someone else might lie” certainly isn’t a good description of lying to conceal your beliefs.
I suspect that one of us, probably both, are falling prey to the Typical Family Fallacy. It’s similar to the Typical Mind Fallacy, only it applies to families instead.
I’d recommend making sure to have someplace to move to prepared, in advance, before telling his parents. (This might take a few years to set up). The negative consequences, in such a case, appear sufficiently bad to justify caution, even temporary concealment of the truth.
I’d also recommend finding some other mentor, or authority figure, that he can trust to talk about the situation with. This other mentor might be a school counsellor, a priest, an aunt or uncle, a teacher, or a school janitor; anyone reasonably sensible who would be willing to not inform his parents would do.
That seems like a pretty tempting benefit to me.
That is true. It does apply to some other forms of “lie to grab the tempting benefits”, though.