I don’t get “you look good in that shirt” comments in any case and that is not what I aim for anyway. But do you think that the in-group is that small? Maybe I should avoid strict in-group quotes like the HPMOR or Aumann ones.
I don’t get “you look good in that shirt” comments in any case and that is not what I aim for anyway.
One of the failure modes of nerds is not putting any value on their own personal level of attractiveness. Which is a mistake, given that better looking people are seen as more likable and trustworthy, are more persuasive, and earn more money. There are good references in the bottom of the post on the halo effect.
Anyone can improve their level of attractiveness, through decoration by dressing well and keeping themselves groomed, being healthier by exercising and eating well, and working on intangibles like improving posture and exhibiting confidence. If you’re looking to improve yourself and gain personal advantages, it’s worth investing time and money into these areas. In this instance, by primarily buying a well-fitting, fashionable wardrobe. You only need one or two tees for in-group signalling.
This doesn’t exactly respond to what you’re saying, but I’m seeing a lot of an ‘I don’t care what I look like’ attitude in these comments and this was a good place to address it.
I see what you are getting at. I’m aware of the status and otherwise signalling of good looks. I slowly moved toward serious looking clothing and otherwise acceptable looks (beard, haicut). But if I’m not completely mistaken I’m of very average attractiveness physically (which is sufficient).
I don’t get “you look good in that shirt” comments in any case and that is not what I aim for anyway. But do you think that the in-group is that small? Maybe I should avoid strict in-group quotes like the HPMOR or Aumann ones.
One of the failure modes of nerds is not putting any value on their own personal level of attractiveness. Which is a mistake, given that better looking people are seen as more likable and trustworthy, are more persuasive, and earn more money. There are good references in the bottom of the post on the halo effect.
Anyone can improve their level of attractiveness, through decoration by dressing well and keeping themselves groomed, being healthier by exercising and eating well, and working on intangibles like improving posture and exhibiting confidence. If you’re looking to improve yourself and gain personal advantages, it’s worth investing time and money into these areas. In this instance, by primarily buying a well-fitting, fashionable wardrobe. You only need one or two tees for in-group signalling.
This doesn’t exactly respond to what you’re saying, but I’m seeing a lot of an ‘I don’t care what I look like’ attitude in these comments and this was a good place to address it.
I see what you are getting at. I’m aware of the status and otherwise signalling of good looks. I slowly moved toward serious looking clothing and otherwise acceptable looks (beard, haicut). But if I’m not completely mistaken I’m of very average attractiveness physically (which is sufficient).