The up-front declaration that you are Not Interested In Marriage Or Children Or Probably Even Exclusivity thing is new; what made you decide to add it?
Because I don’t want to lead people on if they’re looking for those things. Do you think it would be better to leave that out of the profile and just let my responses to the relevant matching questions filter for that sort of thing? (I actually need go back and change some of those to more than “a little important”...)
Well, it does a good shutting-down job, but you should definitely also fix your questions—you’re still at 97% with me even though I’m a fan of all three things.
But do you think it’s worded in a way that repels people with whom I could otherwise at least be friends? I don’t want to signal that I’m hostile to people who are looking for those things, only that I’m not personally looking for them in a relationship.
I don’t actively look for Just Friends on OKC, so I’m not sure how informative I can be about the search patterns of people who do. I didn’t get an impression of hostility, just a clear “Dead End” sign.
The up-front declaration that you are Not Interested In Marriage Or Children Or Probably Even Exclusivity thing is new; what made you decide to add it?
Because I don’t want to lead people on if they’re looking for those things. Do you think it would be better to leave that out of the profile and just let my responses to the relevant matching questions filter for that sort of thing? (I actually need go back and change some of those to more than “a little important”...)
Well, it does a good shutting-down job, but you should definitely also fix your questions—you’re still at 97% with me even though I’m a fan of all three things.
But do you think it’s worded in a way that repels people with whom I could otherwise at least be friends? I don’t want to signal that I’m hostile to people who are looking for those things, only that I’m not personally looking for them in a relationship.
I don’t actively look for Just Friends on OKC, so I’m not sure how informative I can be about the search patterns of people who do. I didn’t get an impression of hostility, just a clear “Dead End” sign.