Definitely interested in the topic, would like to see more about it.
if you act a certain way, you’ll try to act that way in the future to be consistent
This just made an experience in my past click for me:
One of the traits-people-know-about-me is that Relsqui Doesn’t Watch TV. The set of Relsqui-related activities and the set of TV-related activites are assumed to be mutually exclusive. This came about, entirely reasonably, as a result of my griping when a TV was on in the background, during a meal, or when I’d rather be socializing/doing anything else. It’s true that I don’t much enjoy it as a medium. However, there are a few specific examples which I like.
When the most recent season of Dr. Who started, a bunch of my friends started getting together every week to watch it. I’d hear them plan it on another evening, and talk about the episode the following week, and I’d kind of “hrm” to myself and fidget and not say anything. This went on for a few weeks, until finally at the end of some unrelated social evening I approached the friend who was hosting it and said,
“So … um. It’s completely understandable that you wouldn’t even have thought to invite me, because I’ve made such a big deal in the past about not liking that sort of thing, but … uh. I actually happen to like Dr. Who.”
He blinked at me a couple of times, affirmed that he hadn’t invited me because he was certain I wouldn’t be interested, and immediately encouraged me to come. So I did! And it was fun.
That was, I gather, me making a deliberate choice to overcome the consistency effect—although without knowing its name, I just thought of it as “asking for what you want when other people don’t know you want it.” I was pretty proud of myself.
Definitely interested in the topic, would like to see more about it.
This just made an experience in my past click for me:
One of the traits-people-know-about-me is that Relsqui Doesn’t Watch TV. The set of Relsqui-related activities and the set of TV-related activites are assumed to be mutually exclusive. This came about, entirely reasonably, as a result of my griping when a TV was on in the background, during a meal, or when I’d rather be socializing/doing anything else. It’s true that I don’t much enjoy it as a medium. However, there are a few specific examples which I like.
When the most recent season of Dr. Who started, a bunch of my friends started getting together every week to watch it. I’d hear them plan it on another evening, and talk about the episode the following week, and I’d kind of “hrm” to myself and fidget and not say anything. This went on for a few weeks, until finally at the end of some unrelated social evening I approached the friend who was hosting it and said,
“So … um. It’s completely understandable that you wouldn’t even have thought to invite me, because I’ve made such a big deal in the past about not liking that sort of thing, but … uh. I actually happen to like Dr. Who.”
He blinked at me a couple of times, affirmed that he hadn’t invited me because he was certain I wouldn’t be interested, and immediately encouraged me to come. So I did! And it was fun.
That was, I gather, me making a deliberate choice to overcome the consistency effect—although without knowing its name, I just thought of it as “asking for what you want when other people don’t know you want it.” I was pretty proud of myself.