Also, I bet cross-sexual-preference critique would be best: which for most of us means gals critiquing guys and guys critiquing gals. But I realize the LW gender skew limits that.
I’m willing to help cross this divide and check out some dudes or ladies-into-ladies on OKC. I think having seen a lot of profiles with the same errors over and over is a bigger asset than the ovaries, though. Also, unless we really have no criteria other than “is male” or “is female” (and we deserve to have more precise standards than that), it’s going to be hard to distinguish between “your profile doesn’t attract me” and “you don’t attract me.” I’m not sure how to account for, well, taste.
To clarify with an example, I’m happy to give that ball a kick and put my profile out there to be critiqued. But there are some qualities that are important to me which I think are underrepresented among LW’s users (like having good interpersonal/social skills), and some that I’d expect to be common here which I’d prefer to avoid in a partner (like dedicating an above-average proportion of time to academic or professional pursuits). So if I find out that my profile isn’t appealing to people who don’t fit those preferences, is that a good or a bad thing?
I don’t think it’s great either, but it’s the only photo I have of myself that isn’t actively misleading about my appearance. And even that one’s getting out of date. (A little bit of hair growth is a big difference when it’s very short.) What I actually need to do is take some new pictures. :) Or shave my head again, which I’m considering.
I’m willing to help cross this divide and check out some dudes or ladies-into-ladies on OKC. I think having seen a lot of profiles with the same errors over and over is a bigger asset than the ovaries, though. Also, unless we really have no criteria other than “is male” or “is female” (and we deserve to have more precise standards than that), it’s going to be hard to distinguish between “your profile doesn’t attract me” and “you don’t attract me.” I’m not sure how to account for, well, taste.
To clarify with an example, I’m happy to give that ball a kick and put my profile out there to be critiqued. But there are some qualities that are important to me which I think are underrepresented among LW’s users (like having good interpersonal/social skills), and some that I’d expect to be common here which I’d prefer to avoid in a partner (like dedicating an above-average proportion of time to academic or professional pursuits). So if I find out that my profile isn’t appealing to people who don’t fit those preferences, is that a good or a bad thing?
I don’t think the “head back” picture is a good pose.
I don’t think it’s great either, but it’s the only photo I have of myself that isn’t actively misleading about my appearance. And even that one’s getting out of date. (A little bit of hair growth is a big difference when it’s very short.) What I actually need to do is take some new pictures. :) Or shave my head again, which I’m considering.