This would solve the balance problem from a technical perspective but not a human one.
This is definitely a problem. I think you’d need to somewhat disguise what was going on so people didn’t feel they were being ‘priced’.
If you’re “cheap,” an incoming message is just as likely to mean the messager couldn’t afford anyone better as that someone’s interested. If you’re “expensive,” every message means interest … but you get fewer of them than you might elsewhere. Nobody wins.
I’m not sure you appreciate the dynamics of messaging on these sites. The hottest girls get vastly more messages than anyone else, more than they can possibly read and reply to. The problem they face is filtering out messages they might actually be interested in from the noise. For these users fewer messages is better, particularly if the messages are higher quality (which they will probably tend to be if they are expensive to send).
Meanwhile less physically attractive girls and most guys get few or no unsolicited messages. The system should help increase the number of messages they receive. They may indeed be receiving messages from people who ‘couldn’t afford anyone better’ but they are getting messages and chances are the messages they receive will be from more realistic matches. As wedrifid pointed out, people tend to end up in relationships with people of roughly equal attractiveness. All the average guys who send dozens of messages to the hottest 1% of girls who they have little hope of success with might consider messaging someone whose profile interests them but who is of more average physical attractiveness.
I may not have made it clear that the idea would be that the recipients receive some or all of the cost of messaging them. This way the most in demand users would be able to ‘afford’ to message people of similar attractiveness but wouldn’t be deluged with messages from people ‘beneath’ them who they likely have little interest in.
I think you’d need to somewhat disguise what was going on
Agreed.
I’m not sure you appreciate the dynamics of messaging on these sites.
No, trust me, I know this part. :p But I see what you mean; my afterthought about how it would reduce their message quantity missed the point.
particularly if the messages are higher quality (which they will probably tend to be if they are expensive to send)
I wasn’t assuming that would be the case, although
recipients receive some or all of the cost of messaging them
this would mean that hot people would mostly receive messages from other hot people. Which, according to your link, would be preferable for them. Interesting.
Okay, I retract my immediate rejection, at least enough to admit that I’m curious about how this would pan out.
This is definitely a problem. I think you’d need to somewhat disguise what was going on so people didn’t feel they were being ‘priced’.
I’m not sure you appreciate the dynamics of messaging on these sites. The hottest girls get vastly more messages than anyone else, more than they can possibly read and reply to. The problem they face is filtering out messages they might actually be interested in from the noise. For these users fewer messages is better, particularly if the messages are higher quality (which they will probably tend to be if they are expensive to send).
Meanwhile less physically attractive girls and most guys get few or no unsolicited messages. The system should help increase the number of messages they receive. They may indeed be receiving messages from people who ‘couldn’t afford anyone better’ but they are getting messages and chances are the messages they receive will be from more realistic matches. As wedrifid pointed out, people tend to end up in relationships with people of roughly equal attractiveness. All the average guys who send dozens of messages to the hottest 1% of girls who they have little hope of success with might consider messaging someone whose profile interests them but who is of more average physical attractiveness.
I may not have made it clear that the idea would be that the recipients receive some or all of the cost of messaging them. This way the most in demand users would be able to ‘afford’ to message people of similar attractiveness but wouldn’t be deluged with messages from people ‘beneath’ them who they likely have little interest in.
Agreed.
No, trust me, I know this part. :p But I see what you mean; my afterthought about how it would reduce their message quantity missed the point.
I wasn’t assuming that would be the case, although
this would mean that hot people would mostly receive messages from other hot people. Which, according to your link, would be preferable for them. Interesting.
Okay, I retract my immediate rejection, at least enough to admit that I’m curious about how this would pan out.