For me the core of it feels less like trying to “satisfying the values you think you should have, while neglecting the values you actually have” and more like having a hostile orientation to certain values I have.
I might be sitting at my desk working on my EA project and the parts of me that are asking to play video games,watch arthouse movies, take the day off and go hiking, find a girlfriend are like yapping dogs that won’t shut up. I’ll respond to their complaints once I’ve finished saving the world.
Through CFAR workshops, lots of goal factoring, journaling, and Focusing I’m getting some traction on changing that pattern.
I’ve realised that values (or perhaps ‘needs’ fits better) are immutable facts about myself. Like my height or hair colour. And getting annoyed at them for not being different makes about as much sense as shouting at the sky for raining.
The part of me that wants to maximize impact has accepted that moving to the Bay Area and working 80-hours a week at an EA org is a fabricated option. A realistic plan takes into account my values that constrain me to want to live near my family, have lots of autonomy over my schedule and work independently on projects I control. Since realising that, my motivation, productivity, sense of agency (and ironically expected impact) have improved. The future feels a lot brighter – probably because a whole load of internal conflict I wasn’t acknowledging has been resolved.
I’ve realised that values (or perhaps ‘needs’ fits better) are immutable facts about myself. Like my height or hair colour. And getting annoyed at them for not being different makes about as much sense as shouting at the sky for raining.
Just noting that I’m reasonably confident that neither Logan nor most CFAR staff would claim that values are immutable; just that they are not easily changeable.
I think values do, indeed, shift; we can see this when e.g. people go through puberty or pregnancy or lose a limb or pass through a traumatic experience like a war zone. This puts a floor on how immutable values/needs can really be, and presumably they can be shifted via less drastic interventions.
For me the core of it feels less like trying to “satisfying the values you think you should have, while neglecting the values you actually have” and more like having a hostile orientation to certain values I have.
I might be sitting at my desk working on my EA project and the parts of me that are asking to play video games, watch arthouse movies, take the day off and go hiking, find a girlfriend are like yapping dogs that won’t shut up. I’ll respond to their complaints once I’ve finished saving the world.
Through CFAR workshops, lots of goal factoring, journaling, and Focusing I’m getting some traction on changing that pattern.
I’ve realised that values (or perhaps ‘needs’ fits better) are immutable facts about myself. Like my height or hair colour. And getting annoyed at them for not being different makes about as much sense as shouting at the sky for raining.
The part of me that wants to maximize impact has accepted that moving to the Bay Area and working 80-hours a week at an EA org is a fabricated option. A realistic plan takes into account my values that constrain me to want to live near my family, have lots of autonomy over my schedule and work independently on projects I control. Since realising that, my motivation, productivity, sense of agency (and ironically expected impact) have improved. The future feels a lot brighter – probably because a whole load of internal conflict I wasn’t acknowledging has been resolved.
Just noting that I’m reasonably confident that neither Logan nor most CFAR staff would claim that values are immutable; just that they are not easily changeable.
I think values do, indeed, shift; we can see this when e.g. people go through puberty or pregnancy or lose a limb or pass through a traumatic experience like a war zone. This puts a floor on how immutable values/needs can really be, and presumably they can be shifted via less drastic interventions.