When is it okay to ask someone for a little time to vent?
Probably if that person is extroverted enough, or has enough time, that they’re open to spending chunks of time just talking to people; also if you haven’t presumed on that person’s kindness too often. (I worry about that last one a lot: i relied on the same person to make me feel better many times this past year, when I wasn’t in the most sensible frames of mind, and I think it probably cost me his respect.)
also if you haven’t presumed on that person’s kindness too often
That’s a thing I worry about a lot too; it fits well into zigdon’s suggested model of relationship economics, which requires an overall equitable balance if not directly fair exchanges. (This is reassuring, because zigdon is the person I’m often leaning on.)
When is it okay to ask someone for a little time to vent?
Probably if that person is extroverted enough, or has enough time, that they’re open to spending chunks of time just talking to people; also if you haven’t presumed on that person’s kindness too often. (I worry about that last one a lot: i relied on the same person to make me feel better many times this past year, when I wasn’t in the most sensible frames of mind, and I think it probably cost me his respect.)
That’s a thing I worry about a lot too; it fits well into zigdon’s suggested model of relationship economics, which requires an overall equitable balance if not directly fair exchanges. (This is reassuring, because zigdon is the person I’m often leaning on.)