That’s interesting, because I think I usually refrain from vengeance by default, but I do try to like … limit further interaction and stuff. Maybe that’s similar.
The way I was thinking about it is that there’s an internal feelings component—like, do you still feel sad and hurt and angry? Then there’s the updating on evidence component—are they likely to do that or similar things again? And then there’s also a behavioral piece, where you change something in the way you act towards/around them (and I’m not sure if vengeance or just running awaaay both count?) So I wasn’t sure which combination of those were part of “forgiveness” in common usage. It sounds like you’re saying internal + behavioral, right?
That’s interesting, because I think I usually refrain from vengeance by default, but I do try to like … limit further interaction and stuff. Maybe that’s similar.
The way I was thinking about it is that there’s an internal feelings component—like, do you still feel sad and hurt and angry? Then there’s the updating on evidence component—are they likely to do that or similar things again? And then there’s also a behavioral piece, where you change something in the way you act towards/around them (and I’m not sure if vengeance or just running awaaay both count?) So I wasn’t sure which combination of those were part of “forgiveness” in common usage. It sounds like you’re saying internal + behavioral, right?