I paused to think again :-) My instantaneous response idea was to generate a small laundry list of good and bad effects from talking about personal experiences, then pair it down to examples of categories, then use this to say “its really complicated, I don’t know”.
When an interaction is in full-on “adversarial debate mode” I think revealing personal stuff can be a bad thing to do if you accurately predict that the other person is just going to leap on your revelations as evidence for the bias they have been trying to accuse you of having in the course of an ad hominum and/or ad logicam. (And unfortunately, the difference between “that’s a bias and therefore I win” versus “that’s a bias and let’s try to overcome it” is small and depends critically on tone.)
In this case, for me, I think it was the right move because I ended up seeing it as a “lowering of defenses” (a sort of interpersonal CBM) after I’d implicitly requested that you do so. It would have been horrible of me to use something against you that you had revealed about yourself after I raised the possibility of defensiveness.
I paused to think again :-) My instantaneous response idea was to generate a small laundry list of good and bad effects from talking about personal experiences, then pair it down to examples of categories, then use this to say “its really complicated, I don’t know”.
When an interaction is in full-on “adversarial debate mode” I think revealing personal stuff can be a bad thing to do if you accurately predict that the other person is just going to leap on your revelations as evidence for the bias they have been trying to accuse you of having in the course of an ad hominum and/or ad logicam. (And unfortunately, the difference between “that’s a bias and therefore I win” versus “that’s a bias and let’s try to overcome it” is small and depends critically on tone.)
In this case, for me, I think it was the right move because I ended up seeing it as a “lowering of defenses” (a sort of interpersonal CBM) after I’d implicitly requested that you do so. It would have been horrible of me to use something against you that you had revealed about yourself after I raised the possibility of defensiveness.
So um… I think, maybe, yay for us? :-P
::internet high five::