I don’t know what you exprience while you meditate but I think that the description that you gave would lead the average person who reads it to dissociate emotions.
When you speak about the emotion being unfortunate, that’s gives the impression of judgement. That you don’t accept that the emotion being present is completely okay. You want to fix it. It’s not okay the way it is.
That you are attached to wanting it go away.
The sentence “This cognitive-emotional system is insecure and depressed and anxious” looks to me like dissociation. It looks like a mental description. In Tolle’s words it’s the mind speaking. There more content in that sentence than just observing insecurity, depression and anxiety.
If you do that with the “negative” emotion I would predict that the immediate effect is that it hurts less.
Why is dissociation dark?
If you are in that state of dealing with emotions there nothing stopping you directly from hurting other people. You can observe that you hurt someone but you won’t get punished through some empathy mechanism.
If you want a soldier to kill people you need him to disassociate emotions. On the other hand someone like Tolle isn’t in a state where he would kill someone. New Agey people who go the light path aren’t. In Buddhism people become vegan because they don’t want to feel what it feels like to be responsbile for killing something.
Their higher self awareness doesn’t lead them to say: “My mind feels some agony about being involved in killing. But that’s just my mind, that’s not my true self.”
Some satanist might intentionally go to a state where he can do such things but that’s not the mental place where the feel good New Age people like Tolle want to go when they advocate mediation.
So what do you do when a strong negative emotions like anxiety comes to you?
You treat it like a small crying child that comes to you. You show it love and accept that it can cry on your shoulder till everything is alright.
You don’t give the child the impression that it’s unfortunate for you that it came to you to cry on your shoulder.
The child might have unreasonable concerns but it’s still okay that it’s there and tries till it’s over. All the while the parent shows love to the child.
That’s what the New Age phrase of unconditional love is about. Of course unconditional love is a goal that most people won’t achieve at their first meditation experience.
If you can’t manage love finding the emotion interesting is a good step.
Of course you can’t force yourself to feel unconditional love and trying to attach yourself to the idea that you should feel unconditional love during a meditation will likely screw up the whole experience.
That why the usual way of teaching meditation is through a teacher that takes into account where the student which whom he talks is and not though books.
Who was the PHD? S/he said the scenario I just described was “dark and potentially harmful”?
Sai. He made the point that dissociation is dark.
It’s my judgement that what you describe leads to dissociation.
There is a lot here to respond to. And I don’t know that I can or know how to.
I think we have a disagreement largely based on our definitions of some admittedly slippery concepts.
In my example, “unfortunate” was perhaps an unfortunate word choice by me. You are right that unfortunate may be something of a judgement. I meant something more like “this cognitive-mental situation is causing pain.”
I’m speaking (generally) in the context of a response to the OP. Insecurity (and anxiety & depression) might be explained by a mental state that can effectively be observed—but not by the sufferer themselves. In fact, some of what makes these sorts of mood states difficult to improve is a lack of insight on behalf of the sufferer.
An outside observer would say, “Oh, there is nothing to worry about… in reality, you are okay.” Meditation, and some of Tolle’s work (as I understand it) allows you to become identified with that outside observer by recognizing there is an awareness beyond our thoughts and feelings, and become more familiar with that awareness.
We might taboo “disassociate” and “detach” and do better.
I guess I can see how someone could use these techniques to do evil, and I don’t want to be naive… but I’m speaking more about how to feel less social anxiety/insecurity in light of the topic at hand.
I think we have a disagreement largely based on our definitions of some admittedly slippery concepts.
I think the words are slippery but the concept themselves aren’t. The difficult thing is to trace from the words that someone uses what he actually experiences.
The other difficulty is to predict what the words will do to a reader.
An outside observer would say, “Oh, there is nothing to worry about… in reality, you are okay.” Meditation, and some of Tolle’s work (as I understand it) allows you to become identified with that outside observer by recognizing there is an awareness beyond our thoughts and feelings, and become more familiar with that awareness.
I’m not happy with the word “outside”. It’s more a place that neither inside nor outside or both.
But that might be semantics.
More importantely that observer is awareness and not thought. A phrase like “this cognitive-mental situation is causing pain.” looks to me like an intellectual descrition.
It looks constructed.
My impression could be wrong. On the other hand I do point to a failure mode that exists.
I guess I can see how someone could use these techniques to do evil, and I don’t want to be naive… but I’m speaking more about how to feel less social anxiety/insecurity in light of the topic at hand.
I think the light way of dealing with social anxiety to come out with empathy. Having empathy has other advantages besides stopping you from hurting other people. It’s my impression that’s the way that Tolle advocates.
In Buddhism people become vegan because they don’t want to feel what it feels like to be responsbile for killing something.
Is this as distinct from becoming vegan because they don’t want to be responsible for killing something, and/or from becoming vegan because they want fewer things to be killed?
I don’t know what you exprience while you meditate but I think that the description that you gave would lead the average person who reads it to dissociate emotions.
When you speak about the emotion being unfortunate, that’s gives the impression of judgement. That you don’t accept that the emotion being present is completely okay. You want to fix it. It’s not okay the way it is. That you are attached to wanting it go away.
The sentence “This cognitive-emotional system is insecure and depressed and anxious” looks to me like dissociation. It looks like a mental description. In Tolle’s words it’s the mind speaking. There more content in that sentence than just observing insecurity, depression and anxiety.
If you do that with the “negative” emotion I would predict that the immediate effect is that it hurts less.
Why is dissociation dark? If you are in that state of dealing with emotions there nothing stopping you directly from hurting other people. You can observe that you hurt someone but you won’t get punished through some empathy mechanism.
If you want a soldier to kill people you need him to disassociate emotions. On the other hand someone like Tolle isn’t in a state where he would kill someone. New Agey people who go the light path aren’t. In Buddhism people become vegan because they don’t want to feel what it feels like to be responsbile for killing something.
Their higher self awareness doesn’t lead them to say: “My mind feels some agony about being involved in killing. But that’s just my mind, that’s not my true self.”
Some satanist might intentionally go to a state where he can do such things but that’s not the mental place where the feel good New Age people like Tolle want to go when they advocate mediation.
So what do you do when a strong negative emotions like anxiety comes to you? You treat it like a small crying child that comes to you. You show it love and accept that it can cry on your shoulder till everything is alright. You don’t give the child the impression that it’s unfortunate for you that it came to you to cry on your shoulder. The child might have unreasonable concerns but it’s still okay that it’s there and tries till it’s over. All the while the parent shows love to the child.
That’s what the New Age phrase of unconditional love is about. Of course unconditional love is a goal that most people won’t achieve at their first meditation experience. If you can’t manage love finding the emotion interesting is a good step.
Of course you can’t force yourself to feel unconditional love and trying to attach yourself to the idea that you should feel unconditional love during a meditation will likely screw up the whole experience.
That why the usual way of teaching meditation is through a teacher that takes into account where the student which whom he talks is and not though books.
Sai. He made the point that dissociation is dark. It’s my judgement that what you describe leads to dissociation.
There is a lot here to respond to. And I don’t know that I can or know how to.
I think we have a disagreement largely based on our definitions of some admittedly slippery concepts.
In my example, “unfortunate” was perhaps an unfortunate word choice by me. You are right that unfortunate may be something of a judgement. I meant something more like “this cognitive-mental situation is causing pain.”
I’m speaking (generally) in the context of a response to the OP. Insecurity (and anxiety & depression) might be explained by a mental state that can effectively be observed—but not by the sufferer themselves. In fact, some of what makes these sorts of mood states difficult to improve is a lack of insight on behalf of the sufferer.
An outside observer would say, “Oh, there is nothing to worry about… in reality, you are okay.” Meditation, and some of Tolle’s work (as I understand it) allows you to become identified with that outside observer by recognizing there is an awareness beyond our thoughts and feelings, and become more familiar with that awareness.
We might taboo “disassociate” and “detach” and do better.
I guess I can see how someone could use these techniques to do evil, and I don’t want to be naive… but I’m speaking more about how to feel less social anxiety/insecurity in light of the topic at hand.
I think the words are slippery but the concept themselves aren’t. The difficult thing is to trace from the words that someone uses what he actually experiences. The other difficulty is to predict what the words will do to a reader.
I’m not happy with the word “outside”. It’s more a place that neither inside nor outside or both. But that might be semantics.
More importantely that observer is awareness and not thought. A phrase like “this cognitive-mental situation is causing pain.” looks to me like an intellectual descrition. It looks constructed.
My impression could be wrong. On the other hand I do point to a failure mode that exists.
I think the light way of dealing with social anxiety to come out with empathy. Having empathy has other advantages besides stopping you from hurting other people. It’s my impression that’s the way that Tolle advocates.
I don’t know where the line between detachment and dissociation is either.
Somewhat but not entirely tangentially..
Is this as distinct from becoming vegan because they don’t want to be responsible for killing something, and/or from becoming vegan because they want fewer things to be killed?