You have an interest in it and you stay with it. You are supposed to ask it ( I hate that anthropomorphizing of it but that’s what they say) what it wants and stuff like that until you get a ‘shift’ where you have a sort of epiphany which is marked by an unmistakable release of tension.
I have to be missing the purpose of this. Wouldn’t a feeling of insecurity have a simple response like: get away from the speech podium, etc? I did look at some “focusing” websites, but this point I can’t figure out from the few bits and pieces around.
The purpose is to elucidate the feeling in more detail. Our feelings become automatic and don’t require conscious appraisal. Often, a clear conscious appreciation of exactly what our feelings are, doesn’t exist. The feeling can be there but there may not be a conscious understanding of exactly what it is and what it is for.
There is an assumption implied by this whole post that, at least sometimes, our feelings are not appropriate to the situation. Why would I want to get rid of an emotional reaction that is entirely appropriate? If it is serving me well then I would want to keep it. So, yes, there is an assumption that the feelings in question, the ones that I want to be rid of, are not appropriate. Bringing a feeling into clear conscious focus can sometimes make it immediately obvious that that feeling is not needed anymore, at which point it will vanish. That is the point of focusing. A public speaking fear, such as you describe, would certainly not go unnoticed. But that doesn’t mean that the person is fully aware, in detail, of what they are afraid of and why. But focusing can bring that awareness. And often the fear is unreasonable and will vanish when that is realized. But if the feeling is not brought into clearer focus this will not happen. I want to emphasize this point. You can make a very rational airtight argument to yourself that it is irrational and unnecessary to be insecure in that situation. If you haven’t brought a clear picture of the fear into conscious awareness it will not turn off the fear. But if you do bring that clear, detailed picture of the fear and its reasons, and you realize that the reasons are not valid, the fear will vanish. But you have to get that clear picture first or you can’t change it. That is the point of it. The feelings may be irrational but they will not change unless they are brought into clear conscious focus. Perhaps that is why it is called ‘focusing’. The name seems to work better as an analogy to focusing a camera on some particular area than in the common every day sense of ‘focus’ meaning to concentrate.
I have to be missing the purpose of this. Wouldn’t a feeling of insecurity have a simple response like: get away from the speech podium, etc? I did look at some “focusing” websites, but this point I can’t figure out from the few bits and pieces around.
The purpose is to elucidate the feeling in more detail. Our feelings become automatic and don’t require conscious appraisal. Often, a clear conscious appreciation of exactly what our feelings are, doesn’t exist. The feeling can be there but there may not be a conscious understanding of exactly what it is and what it is for.
There is an assumption implied by this whole post that, at least sometimes, our feelings are not appropriate to the situation. Why would I want to get rid of an emotional reaction that is entirely appropriate? If it is serving me well then I would want to keep it. So, yes, there is an assumption that the feelings in question, the ones that I want to be rid of, are not appropriate. Bringing a feeling into clear conscious focus can sometimes make it immediately obvious that that feeling is not needed anymore, at which point it will vanish. That is the point of focusing. A public speaking fear, such as you describe, would certainly not go unnoticed. But that doesn’t mean that the person is fully aware, in detail, of what they are afraid of and why. But focusing can bring that awareness. And often the fear is unreasonable and will vanish when that is realized. But if the feeling is not brought into clearer focus this will not happen. I want to emphasize this point. You can make a very rational airtight argument to yourself that it is irrational and unnecessary to be insecure in that situation. If you haven’t brought a clear picture of the fear into conscious awareness it will not turn off the fear. But if you do bring that clear, detailed picture of the fear and its reasons, and you realize that the reasons are not valid, the fear will vanish. But you have to get that clear picture first or you can’t change it. That is the point of it. The feelings may be irrational but they will not change unless they are brought into clear conscious focus. Perhaps that is why it is called ‘focusing’. The name seems to work better as an analogy to focusing a camera on some particular area than in the common every day sense of ‘focus’ meaning to concentrate.
Great explanation. Thanks.