If you have a trait that the other gender optimizes for more in short-term, lure them by acting short-term, even if later you’ll attempt to raise their oxytocin to the long-term point.
I don’t like that idea. It doesn’t seem right to try to get someone in a long-term relationship when they were just looking for a short-term relationship. It seems no better than trying to get into a short-term relationship with someone who wants a long-term one.
You are right Daniel, best would be to do what you suggest, which I stated in the post. Sometimes as CronoDAS said, there is openness to bending though.
I agree, generally. Generally speaking, if you have good traits, you are better off showing them[1]; but you should keep your preferred “mode” in the foreground. This exploits the fact that the line dividing “short term” from “long term” relationships is often fuzzy, while avoiding a number of problems.
[1] An important exception: males should not show some purported ‘long-term traits’ when they are trying to optimize in the short-term. But this only applies to a few debatable things that are more like attitudes than genuinely ‘good traits’ persay.
I don’t like that idea. It doesn’t seem right to try to get someone in a long-term relationship when they were just looking for a short-term relationship. It seems no better than trying to get into a short-term relationship with someone who wants a long-term one.
I suspect that many people are open to both.
You are right Daniel, best would be to do what you suggest, which I stated in the post. Sometimes as CronoDAS said, there is openness to bending though.
I agree, generally. Generally speaking, if you have good traits, you are better off showing them[1]; but you should keep your preferred “mode” in the foreground. This exploits the fact that the line dividing “short term” from “long term” relationships is often fuzzy, while avoiding a number of problems.
[1] An important exception: males should not show some purported ‘long-term traits’ when they are trying to optimize in the short-term. But this only applies to a few debatable things that are more like attitudes than genuinely ‘good traits’ persay.