Ok, so why not pick the “best”? This sounds like defeatist to me. You are assuming that the best is probably to good for me, over my league and instead of wasting time and energy on that I should rather focus on more realistic options. Is that it?
No. It’s that you’re probably overestimating your ability to judge which relationship will be the “best” for you. The Halo Effect means, for example, you’ll probably overestimate all the positive qualities of a person, based on one quality that is exceptional (say, physical attractiveness).
Ok, so why not pick the “best”? This sounds like defeatist to me. You are assuming that the best is probably to good for me, over my league and instead of wasting time and energy on that I should rather focus on more realistic options. Is that it?
No. It’s that you’re probably overestimating your ability to judge which relationship will be the “best” for you. The Halo Effect means, for example, you’ll probably overestimate all the positive qualities of a person, based on one quality that is exceptional (say, physical attractiveness).