My strategy of having peace is described in my question. As to how to make peace, there have been a few ways suggested, e.g. setting boundaries. I can’t see any others really. Do what you both agree on together, do the rest separately in your own way.
You have your fall back position of retreat here, and very little to lose by experimenting with ways to break out of the behavioural loop you’re stuck in. People alter their behaviour in response to your own. Therefore you can make iterative changes and observe the effects.
My strategy of having peace is described in my question. As to how to make peace, there have been a few ways suggested, e.g. setting boundaries. I can’t see any others really. Do what you both agree on together, do the rest separately in your own way.
You have your fall back position of retreat here, and very little to lose by experimenting with ways to break out of the behavioural loop you’re stuck in. People alter their behaviour in response to your own. Therefore you can make iterative changes and observe the effects.
That’s all I’m trying to get you to consider.
Hm, valid point I suppose. I just have to be careful to not end up with a bigger issue than I’ve started with.