I’m starting 30 days of rejection therapy. Right off the bat, I notice I have low inhibitions against asking for ridiculous things that are sure to be rejected. I cultivated an identity of being an oddball who makes bizarre and safely ignorable interjections back in high school, so such things are right inside my comfort zone. What I am not comfortable with is the making suggestions reasonable enough that there is uncertainty about whether or not someone will accept them, or such that asking might be interpreted to suggest specific negative traits (e.g. greedy or dangerous) instead of a general peculiarity.
I decided to make a move West with my friend. It’s sudden and it’s a change, so my brain keeps hitting the panic button every time I think about it. When I reframe it as happening a year or two from now, I know it’s somewhere that I’ll want to be close to eventually, that having in-state tuition right now doesn’t make it much more likely that I’ll get somewhere in college, and loss aversion (plus persistent alief in own unworthiness) is making me cling a lot harder to my local safety nets than I actually believe they’re worth. Now I just need to pull my head out of the ground long enough to set specific subgoals and murphy-proof my landing plan..
edit: After murphy-proofing, it’s apparent the cost of hitting undo on the sudden move is higher than I realized. It would be highly preferable to negotiate spending a couple of weeks with said friend to get more information, and I can probably optimize a short visit to claim a good portion of the social and motivational benefits I was looking for anyways.
Now started intentionally immersing myself in Spanish. I’ve always had a lackadaisical approach to language learning—I like to dabble, but I don’t actually know anything. Spanish is the language I am most familiar (besides English) with—I was partially raised by my El Salvadorian grandmother, took 3 years of Spanish in middle/high school—and I STILL fail to feel comfortable speaking it. I looked into Cognito Mentoring’s wiki and realized that I ought to either get serious about fluency or stop wasting my time maintaining a meager half-comprehension.
I’ve got a web extension that partially translates the text I’m reading, and I’m checking out the top Youtube videos in Spanish-speaking countries weekly.
On a side note, I’m also slowly trawling through a lojban introduction, making anki cards as I go along. I’m working out an intuitive model of the 5 selbri slots I can use so my brain doesn’t get lost whenever someone switches the order.
I’m starting 30 days of rejection therapy. Right off the bat, I notice I have low inhibitions against asking for ridiculous things that are sure to be rejected. I cultivated an identity of being an oddball who makes bizarre and safely ignorable interjections back in high school, so such things are right inside my comfort zone. What I am not comfortable with is the making suggestions reasonable enough that there is uncertainty about whether or not someone will accept them, or such that asking might be interpreted to suggest specific negative traits (e.g. greedy or dangerous) instead of a general peculiarity.
I decided to make a move West with my friend. It’s sudden and it’s a change, so my brain keeps hitting the panic button every time I think about it. When I reframe it as happening a year or two from now, I know it’s somewhere that I’ll want to be close to eventually, that having in-state tuition right now doesn’t make it much more likely that I’ll get somewhere in college, and loss aversion (plus persistent alief in own unworthiness) is making me cling a lot harder to my local safety nets than I actually believe they’re worth. Now I just need to pull my head out of the ground long enough to set specific subgoals and murphy-proof my landing plan..
edit: After murphy-proofing, it’s apparent the cost of hitting undo on the sudden move is higher than I realized. It would be highly preferable to negotiate spending a couple of weeks with said friend to get more information, and I can probably optimize a short visit to claim a good portion of the social and motivational benefits I was looking for anyways.
Now started intentionally immersing myself in Spanish. I’ve always had a lackadaisical approach to language learning—I like to dabble, but I don’t actually know anything. Spanish is the language I am most familiar (besides English) with—I was partially raised by my El Salvadorian grandmother, took 3 years of Spanish in middle/high school—and I STILL fail to feel comfortable speaking it. I looked into Cognito Mentoring’s wiki and realized that I ought to either get serious about fluency or stop wasting my time maintaining a meager half-comprehension.
I’ve got a web extension that partially translates the text I’m reading, and I’m checking out the top Youtube videos in Spanish-speaking countries weekly.
On a side note, I’m also slowly trawling through a lojban introduction, making anki cards as I go along. I’m working out an intuitive model of the 5 selbri slots I can use so my brain doesn’t get lost whenever someone switches the order.