My only question is, why privilege your “natural state” so much? Seems like naturalistic fallacy. For example, why would I think my anger at my partner is more authentic than how I would feel if we had sex? When that happens, I usually remember how much I love them and let go of my anger, which feels a lot more true to me. And what’s the true amount of funny for a movie?
I think saying “everything in moderation” is a really unsatisfying answer, but it’s true here. Sex can warp your judgment but it’s also a need for most people. Overeating can make you complacent with a bad situation, but that doesn’t mean your judgment is better when you’re hungry. Unfortunately there’s no one true base state and we need to keep applying inputs as well as abstaining to stay in the right zone.
My only question is, why privilege your “natural state” so much?
I don’t; I value my sober state, and I already addressed why at the beginning of the article. I don’t really see anything to add here. And anyway, having sex is one of the most natural things, so trying to moderate it wouldn’t really fall under a naturalistic fallacy.
For example, why would I think my anger at my partner is more authentic than how I would feel if we had sex?
This was pretty much addressed in the blogpost already, with the 4 key points I extracted from the article on toxic relationships. Sex can kind of wirehead you to feel close to someone, regardless of if they’re a good partner or not. I do feel like this cocktail of hormones could tie me into a relationship that I wouldn’t actually want if I stopped having sex with this person for a while and really thought about us—but I agree that “authenticity” is a vague, subjective concept, and you make of it what you will.
If your partner hurt you or was disrespectful to you in anyway, you’d be right to feel anger at them. I know some people use sex as a band-aid in their relationship, but that never addresses the underlying issues and doesn’t seem to work in the long run.
I think saying “everything in moderation” is a really unsatisfying answer, but it’s true here. Sex can warp your judgment but it’s also a need for most people.
I do agree here. I never once mention in my text that people should abstain from sex completely, and I far from want that for myself. I specifically say “We might also want to refrain from sex in some situations”. The last 3-4 paragraphs point to idea of how one could decide to navigate their sex life if they want to continue having sex but avoid some of the drawbacks of it.
My only question is, why privilege your “natural state” so much? Seems like naturalistic fallacy. For example, why would I think my anger at my partner is more authentic than how I would feel if we had sex? When that happens, I usually remember how much I love them and let go of my anger, which feels a lot more true to me. And what’s the true amount of funny for a movie?
I think saying “everything in moderation” is a really unsatisfying answer, but it’s true here. Sex can warp your judgment but it’s also a need for most people. Overeating can make you complacent with a bad situation, but that doesn’t mean your judgment is better when you’re hungry. Unfortunately there’s no one true base state and we need to keep applying inputs as well as abstaining to stay in the right zone.
I don’t; I value my sober state, and I already addressed why at the beginning of the article. I don’t really see anything to add here. And anyway, having sex is one of the most natural things, so trying to moderate it wouldn’t really fall under a naturalistic fallacy.
This was pretty much addressed in the blogpost already, with the 4 key points I extracted from the article on toxic relationships. Sex can kind of wirehead you to feel close to someone, regardless of if they’re a good partner or not. I do feel like this cocktail of hormones could tie me into a relationship that I wouldn’t actually want if I stopped having sex with this person for a while and really thought about us—but I agree that “authenticity” is a vague, subjective concept, and you make of it what you will.
If your partner hurt you or was disrespectful to you in anyway, you’d be right to feel anger at them. I know some people use sex as a band-aid in their relationship, but that never addresses the underlying issues and doesn’t seem to work in the long run.
I do agree here. I never once mention in my text that people should abstain from sex completely, and I far from want that for myself. I specifically say “We might also want to refrain from sex in some situations”. The last 3-4 paragraphs point to idea of how one could decide to navigate their sex life if they want to continue having sex but avoid some of the drawbacks of it.