I’m reading Feeling Good by David Burns, and noticed that my expected value of many everyday activities is seriously out of whack with how it actually turns out. I don’t have quantified data—yet. I’m starting to log expected value of time usage decisions, and compare with the actual experienced value, in order to calibrate things and hopefully improve my “I really don’t want to clean my room even though I feel good about having a clean room and accomplishing stuff”.
I suspect that a lot of my miscalibration is a holdover from the adversarial relationship I had with my parents over getting arbitrary tasks done. More specifically, it’s an attempt to increase their costs of making me do something (since they don’t want to see me unhappy, I can use being whiny or sullen as negotiating leverage). Turns out self-sabotage is an extraordinarily unhelpful habit, but I haven’t really had the insight or tools to fix it up until now.
Anyhow, the two things I’m doing are making a daily schedule and comparing plans to actual accomplishments, and comparing predicted
I’m reading Feeling Good by David Burns, and noticed that my expected value of many everyday activities is seriously out of whack with how it actually turns out. I don’t have quantified data—yet. I’m starting to log expected value of time usage decisions, and compare with the actual experienced value, in order to calibrate things and hopefully improve my “I really don’t want to clean my room even though I feel good about having a clean room and accomplishing stuff”.
I suspect that a lot of my miscalibration is a holdover from the adversarial relationship I had with my parents over getting arbitrary tasks done. More specifically, it’s an attempt to increase their costs of making me do something (since they don’t want to see me unhappy, I can use being whiny or sullen as negotiating leverage). Turns out self-sabotage is an extraordinarily unhelpful habit, but I haven’t really had the insight or tools to fix it up until now.
Anyhow, the two things I’m doing are making a daily schedule and comparing plans to actual accomplishments, and comparing predicted