I don’t disagree. My goal in all of this is to make it so that Alicorn and I don’t have to treat each other like enemies anymore—so she can reply to my comments, and I to hers. To end this drama, in other words. And that really is the long and short of it.
For various reasons I’m having trouble understanding, Alicorn is committed to not relaxing her shunning of me. I consider this inconsistent of her and unproductive, for much the same reasons you give.
I would love for the hostility to end too, because it’s pretty stupid that people can’t publicly reply to each other on a message board. They should try to resolve past difference. (“You first” doesn’t count as trying, IMHO.) It’s not that I have a reason why I want to reply to Alicorns comments specifically; it’s just that the whole charade of having to take circuitous routes to posting because of the presence of the other is just … stupid.
If Alicorn and a mediator want to come to a (private, online) bargaining table so we can understand and settle our differences, great! That would take the talk off the main, and eliminate the basis for me calling Alicorn inconsistent.
Finding a mediator is the easy part. Getting my committment to such talks is easy too. All that’s left is …
My goal in all of this is to make it so that Alicorn and I don’t have to treat each other like enemies anymore—so she can reply to my comments, and I to hers.
I would love for the hostility to end too, because it’s pretty stupid that people can’t publicly reply to each other on a message board.
I suspect I’ll regret getting sucked into this topic, but curiosity forces me to ask: if you think Alicorn is acting unreasonably, why not just resume replying to her comments as and when you want? She doesn’t have any special editor/moderator powers to prevent you from doing so, as far as I can tell.
Why don’t you ask all the other people who have been criticizing me what they think of this advice?
I don’t (at least, not yet) have much interest in what they think of this advice, although I am curious about what they did when you tried it. So if you have a link to what happened ‘last time,’ I’ll check it out.
I made my previous comment because of the unfortunate tendency in this discussion for several people to give me contradictory “obvious” advice, and rather than justifying contradictory positions to each of them, I’ve been content to just point out the kafkaesque standards I’m being held to.
As for the ‘last time’, I’ve linked this several times, but here you go. Notice how unpunished the good deeds go.
I made my previous comment because of the unfortunate tendency in this discussion for several people to give me contradictory “obvious” advice, and rather than justifying contradictory positions to each of them, I’ve been content to just point out the kafkaesque standards I’m being held to.
OK.
As for the ‘last time’, I’ve linked this several times,
I wasn’t around for the past iterations of this discussion, and I haven’t read the entirety of its latest iteration under this top-level post, so I probably missed it. If you’re fed up with people prompting you to link it, I’m sorry; I hadn’t realized you’d been repeatedly prompted to link it.
but here you go. Notice how unpunished the good deeds go.
Reading.
Edit—I’ve now read the thread, and I have some thoughts, but they’re not urgent and I get the feeling you’re not much interested in advice/rationalizations of advice, so I’ll bite my tongue.
I don’t disagree. My goal in all of this is to make it so that Alicorn and I don’t have to treat each other like enemies anymore—so she can reply to my comments, and I to hers. To end this drama, in other words. And that really is the long and short of it.
For various reasons I’m having trouble understanding, Alicorn is committed to not relaxing her shunning of me. I consider this inconsistent of her and unproductive, for much the same reasons you give.
I would love for the hostility to end too, because it’s pretty stupid that people can’t publicly reply to each other on a message board. They should try to resolve past difference. (“You first” doesn’t count as trying, IMHO.) It’s not that I have a reason why I want to reply to Alicorns comments specifically; it’s just that the whole charade of having to take circuitous routes to posting because of the presence of the other is just … stupid.
If Alicorn and a mediator want to come to a (private, online) bargaining table so we can understand and settle our differences, great! That would take the talk off the main, and eliminate the basis for me calling Alicorn inconsistent.
Finding a mediator is the easy part. Getting my committment to such talks is easy too. All that’s left is …
I suspect I’ll regret getting sucked into this topic, but curiosity forces me to ask: if you think Alicorn is acting unreasonably, why not just resume replying to her comments as and when you want? She doesn’t have any special editor/moderator powers to prevent you from doing so, as far as I can tell.
Why don’t you ask all the other people who have been criticizing me what they think of this advice? Or check out the last time I tried that.
I don’t (at least, not yet) have much interest in what they think of this advice, although I am curious about what they did when you tried it. So if you have a link to what happened ‘last time,’ I’ll check it out.
I made my previous comment because of the unfortunate tendency in this discussion for several people to give me contradictory “obvious” advice, and rather than justifying contradictory positions to each of them, I’ve been content to just point out the kafkaesque standards I’m being held to.
As for the ‘last time’, I’ve linked this several times, but here you go. Notice how unpunished the good deeds go.
OK.
I wasn’t around for the past iterations of this discussion, and I haven’t read the entirety of its latest iteration under this top-level post, so I probably missed it. If you’re fed up with people prompting you to link it, I’m sorry; I hadn’t realized you’d been repeatedly prompted to link it.
Reading.
Edit—I’ve now read the thread, and I have some thoughts, but they’re not urgent and I get the feeling you’re not much interested in advice/rationalizations of advice, so I’ll bite my tongue.
Futilely request rational explanation for downmod.
Quit posting on this subject. Please. I didn’t downvote you, but I will downvote any more posts on the topic by anyone.