Above all, don’t feel bad about your current skill set and situation. Most adults have what executive function skills they have through accidents of neurology and development, not through any unusually effortful process of skill acquisition. Others of us need to learn these skills by conscious strategizing and muscle-building. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, especially since shame can make skill growth harder. (Shame makes skill growth harder in two ways: first, it’s an inhibitory emotion and so makes all action harder; second, it makes it harder to take a good look at your present skills and functioning methods, since shame makes it painful to look at them, and you need the information you can get by looking at them.) The important thing is to take a good look at your present state, accept it without judgment, and begin building the skills you want.
Above all, don’t feel bad about your current skill set and situation. Most adults have what executive function skills they have through accidents of neurology and development, not through any unusually effortful process of skill acquisition. Others of us need to learn these skills by conscious strategizing and muscle-building. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, especially since shame can make skill growth harder. (Shame makes skill growth harder in two ways: first, it’s an inhibitory emotion and so makes all action harder; second, it makes it harder to take a good look at your present skills and functioning methods, since shame makes it painful to look at them, and you need the information you can get by looking at them.) The important thing is to take a good look at your present state, accept it without judgment, and begin building the skills you want.