You’re actually hitting on an academically acknowledged hard limit to the number of people whose mind states you can keep track of in conversation. Typically, when there are more than 4 people, you’ll see smaller groups form of 2, 3, and/or 4. It’s very noticeable at big parties. (So no need to be anxious!)
Dunbar talks about it in one of my favorite papers of all time The Anatomy of Friendship. Happy to send you a copy if you’re interested :D
You’re actually hitting on an academically acknowledged hard limit to the number of people whose mind states you can keep track of in conversation. Typically, when there are more than 4 people, you’ll see smaller groups form of 2, 3, and/or 4. It’s very noticeable at big parties. (So no need to be anxious!)
Dunbar talks about it in one of my favorite papers of all time The Anatomy of Friendship. Happy to send you a copy if you’re interested :D
Replying to add a link to the full paper: https://www.ericz.one/aof.pdf ← note, he only mentions it in this paper.
There’s a more detailed explanation in this one!
P.S. Thanks for your patience! Been a bit since I was on here.
Please do! That’s fascinating
I would be so interested in reading that paper, too, please?