I’m experimenting with a format for applying LW tools to personal social-life problems. The goal is to boil down situations so that similar ones will be easy to diagnose and deal with in the future.
To do that, I want to arrive at an acronym that’s memorable, defines an action plan and implies when you’d want to use it. Examples:
OSSEE Activity—“One Short Simple Easy-to-Exit Activity.” A way to plan dates and hangouts that aren’t exhausting or recipes for confusion.
DAHLIA—“Discuss, Assess, Help/Ask, Leave, Intervene, Accept.” An action plan for how to deal with annoying behavior by other people. Discuss with the people you’re with, assess the situation, offer to help or ask the annoying person to stop, leave if possible, intervene if not, and accept the situation if the intervention doesn’t work out.
I came up with these by doing a brief post-mortem analysis on social problems in my life. I did it like this:
Describe the situation as fairly as possible, both what happened and how it felt to me and others.
Use LW concepts to generalize the situation and form an action plan. For example, OSSEE Activity arose from applying the concept of “diminishing marginal returns” to my outings.
Format the action plan into a mnemonic, such as an acronym.
Experiment with applying the action plan mnemonic in life and see if it leads you to behave differently and proves useful.
I’m experimenting with a format for applying LW tools to personal social-life problems. The goal is to boil down situations so that similar ones will be easy to diagnose and deal with in the future.
To do that, I want to arrive at an acronym that’s memorable, defines an action plan and implies when you’d want to use it. Examples:
OSSEE Activity—“One Short Simple Easy-to-Exit Activity.” A way to plan dates and hangouts that aren’t exhausting or recipes for confusion.
DAHLIA—“Discuss, Assess, Help/Ask, Leave, Intervene, Accept.” An action plan for how to deal with annoying behavior by other people. Discuss with the people you’re with, assess the situation, offer to help or ask the annoying person to stop, leave if possible, intervene if not, and accept the situation if the intervention doesn’t work out.
I came up with these by doing a brief post-mortem analysis on social problems in my life. I did it like this:
Describe the situation as fairly as possible, both what happened and how it felt to me and others.
Use LW concepts to generalize the situation and form an action plan. For example, OSSEE Activity arose from applying the concept of “diminishing marginal returns” to my outings.
Format the action plan into a mnemonic, such as an acronym.
Experiment with applying the action plan mnemonic in life and see if it leads you to behave differently and proves useful.