Thanks for the reply. The part about it being “really easy” was a glib attempt at humor, in the same vein as saying, “Losing weight is really easy: you just stop eating so much and start working out more!” Or “It’s easy to quit smoking, just don’t smoke!” As with many things in life there’s a big gap between knowing what one should do and then actually doing it.
As you said, intellectually accepting something tends to be much easier than emotionally integrating it. I wish I had better advice when it came to that part of things. The best I can do is just point to the key premise behind social skills and hope to highlight some mistakes that smart people tend to make when approaching the issue.
Another example of what you mention in your first paragraph that I’ve said before: It’s easy to break the world record in any running event. Just run faster than the world record holder did!
It should be fairly obvious that it’s not just a case of running faster. A list of necessary conditions for success is not a solution. (Though it can be a good start.)
Defining the success conditions is a critical first step, and you’d be surprised at how many people don’t do that. Many people frame their goals as a state-of-being, e.g. “I want to be the fastest runner in the world” rather than a success-condition, e.g. “I want to beat the current world record holder.”
Thanks for the reply. The part about it being “really easy” was a glib attempt at humor, in the same vein as saying, “Losing weight is really easy: you just stop eating so much and start working out more!” Or “It’s easy to quit smoking, just don’t smoke!” As with many things in life there’s a big gap between knowing what one should do and then actually doing it.
As you said, intellectually accepting something tends to be much easier than emotionally integrating it. I wish I had better advice when it came to that part of things. The best I can do is just point to the key premise behind social skills and hope to highlight some mistakes that smart people tend to make when approaching the issue.
Another example of what you mention in your first paragraph that I’ve said before: It’s easy to break the world record in any running event. Just run faster than the world record holder did!
It should be fairly obvious that it’s not just a case of running faster. A list of necessary conditions for success is not a solution. (Though it can be a good start.)
I go into this in further detail in this post
Defining the success conditions is a critical first step, and you’d be surprised at how many people don’t do that. Many people frame their goals as a state-of-being, e.g. “I want to be the fastest runner in the world” rather than a success-condition, e.g. “I want to beat the current world record holder.”