Note, I don’t think this is because I’m an unpleasant person to converse with.
Do you have any objectively verifiable evidence of this ? I personally used to think the same way you did, until I was convinced by outside observers that I do indeed become a very unpleasant person when I’m arguing about something. Realizing something like this about oneself requires a level of introspection that most people—myself included—simply do not possess.
I have had multiple people, ones with whom I have disagreements, directly state that they enjoy conversing with me. Other people I’ve spoken with don’t like the entire class of discussion; I think I am more pleasant than a random person to have them with, but I freely admit I don’t have strong evidence that that is the case.
Do you have any objectively verifiable evidence of this ? I personally used to think the same way you did, until I was convinced by outside observers that I do indeed become a very unpleasant person when I’m arguing about something. Realizing something like this about oneself requires a level of introspection that most people—myself included—simply do not possess.
Not specifically about a relevant conversation. But I don’t think I’ve misinterpreted what people have said.
The point is not what people have said, but what people have not said.
I have had multiple people, ones with whom I have disagreements, directly state that they enjoy conversing with me. Other people I’ve spoken with don’t like the entire class of discussion; I think I am more pleasant than a random person to have them with, but I freely admit I don’t have strong evidence that that is the case.