I’ve been married just under 27 years now, and ooey gooeyness has been on a long slow uptrend, so I don’t think that irrationality, drama, or short-livedness have anything to do with it. We were together for five years before that, and I asked her to marry me because at some point it became obvious that I couldn’t see spending the rest of my life without her.
Granted, the first year or two of knowing each other was rather turbulent, but during that time I mostly didn’t see her as The One or really even very Significant. That was something that took time, moving from FWBs to VCFWBs to romantic feels.
I think that drama is what we see portrayed in media as romantic, but that’s because the genre of said media is drama (or comedy). And just generally, things in media have to be made more dramatic in order to be entertaining. It’s usually not considered entertainment to see two people who are sweet on each other break into smiles every time they see each other and practically moan at any form of physical contact with one another—unless the genre of the piece is “slice of life” or “fluff”, and most popular media is not that.
I’ve been married just under 27 years now, and ooey gooeyness has been on a long slow uptrend, so I don’t think that irrationality, drama, or short-livedness have anything to do with it. We were together for five years before that, and I asked her to marry me because at some point it became obvious that I couldn’t see spending the rest of my life without her.
Granted, the first year or two of knowing each other was rather turbulent, but during that time I mostly didn’t see her as The One or really even very Significant. That was something that took time, moving from FWBs to VCFWBs to romantic feels.
I think that drama is what we see portrayed in media as romantic, but that’s because the genre of said media is drama (or comedy). And just generally, things in media have to be made more dramatic in order to be entertaining. It’s usually not considered entertainment to see two people who are sweet on each other break into smiles every time they see each other and practically moan at any form of physical contact with one another—unless the genre of the piece is “slice of life” or “fluff”, and most popular media is not that.