another thing I consider common, is that a person who is overly flexible in changing their stance, and overly “fluent” in various social stances comes of as untrustworthy, suspicious, even dangerous. In the height of the PUA/NLP craze, these kind of people were called “social robots”, and their behavior either made people fall for their charisma easily, or be extremely creeped out.
I think humans subconsciously expect some social stance misunderstandings, pushback from people with different stances, and that it would take at least some struggle to convince someone to match your stance. If the other person immediately shifts to a compatible stance, even one incongruous with their previous behavior, it catches us of-guard.
another thing I consider common, is that a person who is overly flexible in changing their stance, and overly “fluent” in various social stances comes of as untrustworthy, suspicious, even dangerous. In the height of the PUA/NLP craze, these kind of people were called “social robots”, and their behavior either made people fall for their charisma easily, or be extremely creeped out.
I think humans subconsciously expect some social stance misunderstandings, pushback from people with different stances, and that it would take at least some struggle to convince someone to match your stance. If the other person immediately shifts to a compatible stance, even one incongruous with their previous behavior, it catches us of-guard.